I've been talking to this guy for a while, and I really think we get along well. But it's been 3 months, and he still hasn't asked me out or taken any other steps. Is he just playing with me, or am I rushing things? Do you think I should ask him directly, or should I wait a bit longer?
I experienced the same thing once. The kid wrote 2-3 times a week for 6 months, and I felt like everything was going great. But then I learned that there were others he was talking to in parallel. I asked him directly about his intentions, and he said they were just friends. So I think you should ask without dragging it out, or else things get even more confusing.
I think you should just ask directly, there's no point in dragging it out. You could say something like, 'We've been talking a lot, haven’t you thought about meeting up?' This way, you clarify things comfortably without putting too much pressure on them 😂
You've been chatting here for 3 months straight and it's been nice. But one can't help but think, "We've talked so much, why aren't we making any moves?" Especially when waiting like this, people start to imagine even more in their heads. It's a tiring situation, I'm sure.
There’s something else going on here. For example, what if he’s more into someone else? Or is it strange that he doesn’t want to meet? I mean, three months isn’t a short time; he should have made a move somehow. You should push a bit more, maybe you’ll learn other details.
If they are someone you trust and are in constant communication with, there could be several reasons why they haven't proposed a meet-up: They might have an issue like social anxiety or they might be flirting with someone else. Communication is key here. But if you want to know more, you can consult a relationship coach.
Well, did you propose anything during this process? It feels a bit strange to always be waiting for the other side. Maybe the kid is also waiting to see what your reaction will be. There's no rule that a guy has to propose, after all. 😬
Let me go into a bit more detail: Actually, when we're messaging, a very warm person always asks about my well-being and makes jokes. But when it comes to meeting, either they don't bring up the topic at all, or they change the subject. I also get hesitant; why would someone who has been messaging for so long not be able to gather the courage?
Look, to be frank, you are a valuable individual too. How long are you going to tolerate someone who sees it as their right to constantly write to you for 3 months but doesn't take a step? Here, either the initiative will end or continue, but as long as this uncertainty persists, you are wasting time.
Let's be honest, let me speak from a guy's perspective. A guy is either really shy or sees you as a sure thing. Unfortunately, some guys think about other possibilities while keeping someone hanging. But look, it doesn't always have to be this way; he might be struggling to express himself.
