We only have three weeks until our wedding, and the other day I found out that my partner has been messaging their ex. Honestly, I felt very insecure, but I can't decide what to do. Why are they doing this? Is there someone else on their mind? I never expected something like this.
It happened to me too. A month before the wedding, I caught my ex on DM. It ended in a breakup, he was showing his intentions from the start anyway 😳
What is he talking about with his ex? Is it something special? Or is it just casual conversation? We need to understand the situation.
@soncaykaldi I learned that they met up with old friends, checked in on them, but they didn't mention anything to me. They've kept it a secret.
I don't think it's normal for them to do something like this before the wedding. You said to keep it a secret, but why didn't you confront it openly? You need to talk it out and lay down the law.
the solution to this situation is healthy communication. Such stress before the wedding complicates both your relationship dynamics and your psychology. Stay calm while speaking, and ask in detail what the purpose of their message is. Also, if canceling the wedding is even on the agenda, prepare your families for the process 😳
If you're writing these things without confronting them, it seems a bit hasty. Maybe it’s something on the border of friendship. Thinking of canceling right away is also an exaggeration 🙄
I don't forgive. A wedding man shouldn't be doing business.
Why would they hide meeting with old friends? If there's secrecy, the issue is usually not innocent. I'm not saying it's definitely a wedding cancellation, but you definitely need to investigate this seriously. 😳
Writing to an ex is one thing, meeting with old friends is another. Could you be confusing the two? It seems like you’re going on too much of a possibility without getting a clear explanation.
Why didn't he/she keep the message limited to just asking how he/she is? If they invited the ex to the meeting, there might be another intention there. He/She needs to clarify this; otherwise, why would he/she hide it?
Forget messaging the ex, why would they feel the need to meet up with old friends just three weeks before the wedding? Is there a cooling off in the relationship, stress? Or is it an escape to old stories? This is something to question.
If you have no objections to meeting old friends, under what conditions do you consider the detail of an ex to be "normal" in a relationship? This needs to be clarified. Aside from the part about keeping secrets, do you allow a completely untouchable space for messages or meetings?
The detail about an ex is never considered normal, especially three weeks before the wedding. If there’s something to hide, there’s already a problem from the start. Do you know the content of the message? It's hard to make sense of it without looking at it.
Messaging an ex before a wedding is already a suspicious move, but you can't fully gauge the extent of the situation without looking at the message content. Is it something that can be dismissed as "just checking in," or does it delve deeper? Even if it's done just out of stress, the way you communicate matters. You need to clarify this.
