Out of nowhere, an old friend of mine said, "You know your spouse has liked their ex's story." I want to ask my spouse why this happened, but I'm afraid our conversation might turn into a fight. On one hand, I'm trying to calm myself down by thinking that it might just be something done casually. Do you think I should ask about this or just let it be?
I think this is completely a matter of respect. Heartbeats aren’t something that can be done ‘just like that’. One should act by considering another person's feelings. What's the point of being in a relationship if we can't even intervene in an ex's story?
I just have one question. Why did your old friend tell you this? Did they see the story? Don't get caught in the middle, but there's something strange about this. Think about who is sending what message to whom 🤦♀️
@rumuz2 My friend saw the heart in the story and immediately called me. It's actually not the first time, a few months ago, he had liked a photo of an old female friend.
@beden_savunucu You've really exaggerated, I swear if you put so much meaning into everything, you can't have a marriage. A heartbeat is just a ten-second event. Are you blowing the real issue out of proportion in your head?
In such situations, the intent behind the incident is usually important. Psychologists recommend addressing it not in an accusatory manner but through an honest conversation. Instead of saying, 'Why did you do that?', you can express it with a sentence like, 'I noticed this and it made me uncomfortable.' If their intentions are pure, they will clarify.
Ah man, when you wrote that, it really reminded me of that feeling of a stone sitting in your stomach. You know how it comes to mind when you wake up in the morning or when you're about to sleep, just pops up? That's the worst. You're right, you can't get it out of your head unless you ask.
So why are you hesitant to ask? Is sharing the same home with him really more valuable than a one-time argument that would happen if you brought this up?
@kadir_kiymetci You're right, but in the last argument, they said "I'm tired of your constant questioning." That's why I'm a bit afraid 😅
Come on, it’s really simple. It’s already weird that his ex is posting stories! If she has a life of her own, why is she still showing up in his stories? That clearly means something—otherwise why would he show her at all? Attitude and all that, it’s just pointless drama.
