I’ve had stomach pains and nausea since yesterday; I’m constantly lying down. I asked my husband if I should go to the doctor, and he said, ‘Something must have upset your stomach since last night, just wait a bit, it’ll pass.’ But this morning, I feel like the pains have increased. What should I do? Is it right to go to the doctor while my husband insists that it’s nothing?
I mean, no offense, but have we really gotten used to living with the phrase ‘just wait a bit, it’ll pass’? One would at least take their partner to a doctor or consult a pharmacy. You’ve been lying down since yesterday, and you actually feel worse this morning. It doesn’t make sense; I think it’s best if you go by yourself.
So does your spouse usually have this kind of “it’ll pass” mentality about things? Or did they only think this way in this particular situation? I’m asking because maybe that’s their general attitude.
@sorgulayan Actually, it’s usually like this. He always says, ‘Being a doctor is nothing.’ But this time I feel really bad. I could barely stand up this morning when I got out of bed.
@skeptik_hesapci It’s easy to make one-sided accusations, of course. But it seems like the friend also got a bit caught up in such a complaint. They said they felt bad when they got up in the morning, but did they clearly tell their spouse, ‘I’m feeling really bad’? We’re adults; it doesn’t mean we won’t go to the doctor just because someone says ‘don’t go.’
It is likely something like food poisoning, but the seriousness varies from person to person. If nausea and abdominal pain are severe, you might experience fluid loss, which can be dangerous. It’s essential to see a doctor in this situation. Even if I say your spouse may have misled you, their intention might be to “not panic” you, but you shouldn’t risk your health.
Let me tell you something, my spouse was always like that too. Always saying ‘it’ll pass’, ‘it’s nothing serious’… But one time I didn’t listen to that, I went straight to the doctor. Turns out my appendix was about to burst. I think gather your courage, so it doesn’t get worse.
I think your partner either says this because they believe “money is spent,” or they genuinely don’t care much. I can’t think of another explanation for avoiding the doctor. But does that tendency to brush things off with “everything is fine” appear in other areas for you as well? I suggest you take a look.
@dedikoducu No, I don’t think it’s like that. Maybe the guy is just warm and friendly, but didn’t think a doctor was necessary. My husband is like that too; we handle most things at home, insisting on them until they’re sorted out. Not everything is a conspiracy right away, after all.