I noticed that my fiancée liked a photo on social media. It was a wedding photo of her ex! At first, I tried not to think too much about it, but as our wedding approaches, seeing something like this feels strange. Is she trying to show respect, or does she still have feelings? I wanted to ask, but I'm afraid of starting an unnecessary argument.
Honestly, I think this is a really weird situation. If my fiancé did that, I’d lose my mind. Especially something like wedding photos and all. It’s obvious the woman still has a place in the guy’s head. I’d never allow things like that—I’d say ask him directly, no question.
So, have you seen something similar with your fiancée before? I mean, did anything else happen with her ex-boyfriend?
@meltem this isn't actually the first time. She had liked other photos related to her ex-boyfriend, but those weren't from a wedding; they were from an old friend group.
@cimcime I don't think there's any point in blowing this up so much. It's perfectly normal for a guy to show respect for an old memory. Not everyone has to think like us.
In such cases, it would be better to talk openly with your fiancé. Instead of a directly accusatory tone, you can gently ask things like, "Why do you like it?" People sometimes seem like they haven't moved on from old memories, but their intentions can be different.
If you're going to worry about it this much, why did you get engaged? Clearly, the guy hasn't completely let go of that side, and you're continuing despite knowing this. Who knows what else he might do in marriage.
We don't do things like that. Engagement requires seriousness; old chapters need to be closed. Liking wedding photos is a kind of disrespect. Consider how a man who behaves like this towards his partner treats his family.
@ebru34 is this respect! A wedding photo is something sacred, no one should interfere with it. The woman is sensitive, she's right. If she tolerates this, what might happen tomorrow 😳
I think you should take your fiancée's phone and ask her properly. Ask, 'What did you feel when you liked this wedding photo?' Trust your instincts; your tone of voice will guide you.
