My girlfriend keeps messaging her ex and doesn't inform me about it. I found out she shares this with her friends. I'm very curious, should I find this normal? To be honest, I'm really confused about this, how should I evaluate this situation?
oh come on, that's just disrespectful
So how did you learn this? Did you see the messages or did your friend tell you?
I heard from a friend before the coffee got cold. Apparently, he has shared things in a group chat with his ex, not one-on-one. But still, it's weird.
@biseydiycem Is this disrespectful now? Maybe they really stayed friends with their ex, do we always have to look for bad intentions?
@aklimkaldi I mean, group chats are different, and one-on-one messages are different. You seem to be overthinking it without clearly finding out their intentions.
Privacy violation is an important issue, but if you are talking about group chats, it doesn't imply one-on-one privacy. Still, it depends on your relationship dynamics, so it would be good to talk openly.
Sharing something with an ex in a group chat is a somewhat ambiguous situation; it depends on the context. But if his friends know about it, there's really nothing to hide anymore, which means he probably doesn't care if you know. Do you think this guy is generally pushing boundaries, or does he usually not do things like this? The clue is right there.
If you're uncomfortable with them sharing in the group chat, I think the real question is: is he keeping his ex because of the group dynamic or does he still have a connection with her? Also, has he ever mentioned this group to you? If not, the privacy aspect becomes clearer.
