I just started a new job, and the woman at the desk next to me constantly criticizes my work. She says things like, 'I had this job memorized when I was your age.' At first, I didn't pay much attention, but it's really starting to get on my nerves. Is she trying to one-up me, or is this her normal behavior? Do you think I should confront her or tell the manager?
I've experienced something similar. In the past, a coworker would always throw shade like this, saying, 'You couldn't even manage such a simple thing?' I eventually couldn't take it anymore and confronted him directly. I said, 'I'm still learning, sorry, but comments like that affect my morale,' and after that, he stopped.
I experienced the same thing. At my first job, a woman constantly looked down on me. At first, I ignored it, but then my performance started to decline. I talked to the manager, who approached it very professionally and privately warned the woman. Maybe you'll find a solution this way.
But let me tell you something, maybe that woman is really speaking the truth? I mean, maybe you really learn slowly. Why not take a moment to reflect on yourself, maybe considering her criticism will benefit you.
This situation may be related to the power dynamics in the workplace. Some people resort to such methods to gain superiority over newcomers. Instead of ignoring this, you should either confront it or try to resolve it formally with the manager. But first, it's important to set boundaries.
Have you ever tried talking to him directly? Like, have you asked him right to his face why he says things like 'You still don't understand such a simple task'? Maybe he's doing it unknowingly.
I thought about it, and a few times at work I gave questioning answers like "why are you talking like that," but it seemed like he didn't take me seriously. In fact, he started talking down to me even more. Honestly, I want to grab the manager's attention a bit, but would that be going overboard?
You need to set your boundaries from the start in situations like this. This happened to me at work; when I stayed silent and let it slide, they got even more spoiled. Just speak directly, say, 'I don't like comments like that.' If it continues, you can involve your manager.
What a sentence! 'So you still didn't get such a simple task?' It must leave such a terrible feeling in you. It really shatters a person's confidence. Do you feel worse when you can't defend yourself at that moment, or when you think about it in the evening?
I think you should talk to the manager right away. But do this: First, remember 1 or 2 example sentences that express exactly how they spoke harshly. Emphasize that it affected work performance; they will come up with a solution anyway.
