I was on the minibus heading home in the evening, it was a bit crowded but there was still space to keep distance. I noticed a man behind me, he was too close for comfort. At first, I brushed it off, but then I started to feel really uncomfortable. Just as I was thinking about saying something, my stop arrived. Do they get braver the more we stay silent? What should I have done?
I've experienced something similar, again on the minibus. When the guy got too close, I just said, 'Could you please move a little to the left?' He blushed a bit and backed off. I think if you're uncomfortable, you should show it right away.
Did you mean to say something but then got stuck? Did you run out of time or were you hesitant? Because if you were hesitant, think about what exactly made you hesitate.
@kahvebitmeden there was very little time, and honestly, I didn't know what to say. My mom always says, 'don't make a big deal about it in front of everyone,' and that came to my mind.
@aklimkaldi I don't think expressing discomfort in front of people is making a big deal out of it. After all, what they did was wrong, not you. We need to speak out here.
In fact, in these situations, clear and straightforward language is best. If you say, 'Sir, you've gotten too close, could you step back?' you're taking care of yourself, and others will notice the situation as well. Usually, when such a warning is given, these types of individuals become quiet.
There have been discussions about amplifying and diminishing, but I think it's important in which tone the person responds. For example, if he had given a sarcastic reply, you might have felt worse.
This headline seems a bit strange. Did it coincide exactly with your stop? Either the person's intention is innocent, or they are unaware? Some situations seem to raise suspicions, but I couldn't tell 😬
@yazipsildim does the woman have to be disturbed to find out if she is innocent? I mean, the issue is more about how it affects the other person rather than the individual's intention 🤷♀️
