I'm uncomfortable with my fiancé receiving messages from his ex

I experienced a similar situation once and thought, am I dating the same guy? It's tough to trust someone who still talks to their ex. Instead of worrying, just ask directly what's going on.

Marriage is serious; if there's so much fuss, it means there's a problem. Sort it out before the wedding, otherwise, these kinds of things will be held against you later. I suggest you talk to someone from the family and map out a clear path.

When you say "message," did it show directly to you or did he say it himself? I think the seriousness of the situation is a bit here.

I saw @soncaykaldi, a notification had been accidentally opened once. Then when I checked, it said "it's writing trivial things" but deleted it. Still, it stuck in my mind.

@aklimkaldi, to be honest, there's really no need for such coincidences. If someone truly closes old chapters, you wouldn't even witness things like this. It's clear that you've been suspicious already.

I think it's very wrong to get families involved before the coffee is finished. If adults can't solve things among themselves, it will only get worse. You've mentioned marital unity, but don't get too hung up on family unity 😬

There's no point in having a wedding if you don't trust each other.

It's completely normal to feel uncomfortable, you know 😮‍💨

"If he says he is writing insignificant things, then he knows the content of the message; why did he feel the need to delete it? Honestly, I would be more troubled by that. Why is he making decisions on his own if everything is supposed to be transparent?"

Does deleting the message mean we're closing the issue, or was there something that needed to be hidden? You won't feel at ease until you find out for sure anyway 😮‍💨

If deleting the message ends the matter, why is there a need to explain "insignificant things" before deleting it? If it's really insignificant, just leave it be. I think there's a contradiction here.