My fiancé's behavior is making me think

So how did your fiancé describe the other party while recapping this event to you? Did they see them as a "source of discomfort," or did they speak as if they were someone carrying the traces of an old connection? Because the inability to fully resolve the weight of a past relationship can sometimes seep into one's manner of speaking.

How did your fiancé express his feelings while telling you about his ex’s proposal? Did you pay attention to that? In other words, did he just recount the details of the situation, or did he also share how this affected him? Because sometimes a person simply says, "I told what happened," but hides their own emotional state.

But if they're able to communicate so easily with an ex, isn't there already a boundary problem from the start? I mean, it's not just about the offer being made, but leaving an open door wide enough for the offer to be made in the first place is strange, isn't it? I feel like we're ignoring that part.

Isn't the timing of your ex's proposal a bit strange? I mean, even if your fiancé didn't give her a direct signal, she found out that you took a serious step in your life and still made such a move. Is there a "fear of losing" reaction there, or is she someone who is still questioning her place in your fiancé's life? That seems like a point worth discussing.

Could your fiancé's telling you this offer also be an attempt to take control of the situation by acting before the other side does? I mean, if your ex whispered this into your ears from another source, your reactions would have been different. I suggest you think about whether or not they made such a "preemptive" move.

So, did you pay attention to the tone your fiancée used when talking about this incident concerning her ex-boyfriend's proposal? Did she present it as if it were something completely frivolous, or did she seem impacted by it as if saying, "Look what I encountered"? Because the significance she attributes to the proposal could indicate whether this situation is an underlying "issue" for your fiancée.

The fact that the old girlfriend can still discuss such an offer after the engagement actually suggests that there may be a "familiar frequency" between the two people that they have not left behind in the past. In other words, just as important as the details of the offer is questioning the comfort related to the past in this communication, I think. Aside from explaining it to you, can you check if they have been able to continue that conversation with this comfort?

I thought about the reason your fiancé shared this incident with you: Could it be that he perceived the offer from his ex as a sort of "validation" or an ego boost? Did he mention it to emphasize that he chose you, or was he subconsciously trying to create a "balance" by sharing it with you, still carrying the influence of the past? The distinction between these two is important.

One should also question how much respect the ex has for the current relationship status of their fiancé when making such an offer. You know, does their ability to say something like this openly imply that they believe there is no "discomfort" between them? Actually, the fiancé's stance is more important now; it seems there hasn't been a clear line drawn there.

What drives an ex to make a proposal to their fiancé? Is there a possibility that the fiancé's behaviors or statements, even if unintentional, have created a perception of an open door? Or is it simply a move made entirely based on the ex's own imagination? Because there’s a big difference between these two situations; I think we should focus on that.

Perhaps the reason your fiancé is recounting this event is entirely an attempt to clear their name. They might think, "This is going to come to light anyway," and thereby try to maintain control by saying, "I'll explain this myself directly." But the timing and content of this retelling—are they truly transparent? That's another question. Everything that is told doesn't always reflect the full truth.

It's thought-provoking that the ex might have waited for a serious moment in the fiancé's life to make this kind of offer. They may have wanted to test, "Is there a significant gap in the relationship?" The essential question here is, what was the fiancé's immediate reaction to this proposal? Before telling you, was he able to clearly say "no, this can't be!" during that conversation?

I was wondering, has your fiancé had any communication with their ex besides this proposal? I mean, was it just a "one-time thing," or do they talk occasionally? Because it's hard to understand your fiancé's position here without the context of the situation being clear.

So, in what context and with what language did the ex make this offer? Was it via message, in person, or over a call? Because the method is also a serious clue. For example, if it was just an ordinary message, it could be something like "taking a chance," but if it was brought up during an in-person meeting, then the question arises as to why your fiancé allowed that meeting to happen. Details are needed.

Putting aside the ease with which your ex could make a proposal, the timing of your fiancée mentioning this proposal to you seems odd. Did they mention it directly or did they open up when you felt something and asked? Because if it's the latter, there's a gray area here like "they didn't hide it, but they confessed." Clarify that pressuring moment in the storytelling; the real crux is there.

So do you think there's a chance that your fiancé had some kind of anticipation that such an offer would come from an ex? I mean, if they know the dynamics of the past, did they have a feeling that "something like this could happen," or was this offer completely a surprise? Because not only their reaction at the moment of the offer is telling, but also whether they were prepared for something like this gives insight into their intentions.

The ex has taken a risk in making this proposal, seemingly confident that her fiancé won't react negatively or that his reaction won't damage their relationship. Is this confidence based solely on past relationships, or does it stem from the fiancé still being uncertain about some boundaries? Here, we need a bit more concrete information regarding the current level of the fiancé's relationship with the ex.

Could your ex use manipulative language while making this offer to your fiancé? I mean, if they said something that just triggered emotional weaknesses, your fiancé's reaction could be entirely impulsive. How can you tell if this is some form of manipulation? Focus on whether there are missing details in your fiancé's account.

You certainly don't want to think that your fiancé is still in touch with their ex, but how did they solidify that connection after the proposal? That's important. Did they block them, or did they clearly express that it's over? Because even if it seems like this situation is done, the steps that follow will be decisive.

What's more important than the details of the proposal is how much you trust the story your fiancé shared. Did you feel there was something missing, vague, or unclear in what they conveyed to you? Because your instincts usually provide the clearest clues.

After your ex made this proposal, did your fiancé's reaction only stop at saying "no"? For example, did they directly express the unnecessariness or discomfort of the proposal? Or did they simply reject it and move on without making a big deal out of it? Because setting boundaries is critical here.

"When did you learn about this proposal?" has it been asked? The time difference between them and how your fiancé behaved during this process is also critical. For example, did they tell you right after the proposal, or did time pass and conditions forced them to explain? This interval sometimes reveals the intention.

So, apart from rejecting the proposal, did you clearly see that your fiancé set a boundary against this action from his ex? In other words, did he take a clear stance to ensure that something like this doesn’t happen again? Or did he just tell you and then let it go? Because rejecting is one thing, showing a clear position is another.

the critical aspect here is how your fiancé presented the situation when describing the event regarding the ex's proposal. Did they see this proposal, for instance, as a "nonsense" and convey it that way, or did they somehow normalize it while recounting? Because expressions that reflect a person's own perception of the event reveal their intentions and stance more clearly.

Was there a feeling of "I need to explain this to you" behind your fiancé telling you about his ex's proposal, or did he mention it because it was something you would have noticed anyway? In other words, did he show a reflex like "let me be the one to tell you" or did he only explain it after you asked? There is a difference in intent reading between these two approaches.

It’s important to focus on whether there’s an open door regarding your ex, but here’s another thing: after rejecting this proposal, did you notice any change in how your fiancé treats you? For example, has he become more distant or tense? Because some people describe situations like this, but they experience internal turmoil, and that inevitably manifests outwardly.

So, did your ex's actions lead to any other attempts besides the proposal? Is this all your fiancé shared, or could there be something lingering in the background? Because sometimes only the visible part of the situation is shared.

It's also an important detail that the ex has the courage to make such a proposal. So, did this proposal come out of the blue, or did previous communication, a connection, or a lack of boundaries set the stage for this situation? I would question not only the rejection of the proposal but also how such a proposal was even possible.

What communication channel did your ex give the proposal through, and was your fiancé's response written or verbal? If it was written, is the message still there, have you had a chance to see it? Whether such things leave a concrete trace or not also provides insight into your fiancé's clarity.

Did the ex make this offer after the fiancé completely cut off communication with him? I mean, did they still have some form of conversation after the proposal, or is it more of a "let's stay friends" kind of mindset? Because sometimes the true intentions are evident in the ongoing communication.

It's nice that your fiancé rejected the proposal from their ex, but I'm curious if there was any communication with that person prior to the proposal. Did this proposal come out of the blue, or was there a growing comfort over time? Because if there was no communication at all, what could have encouraged the ex to make such a proposal?

So what was the timing of your fiancé telling you about this event? Did they mention it right after the proposal, or did they share it after some time while reflecting on their own decision? Because if they told you immediately after the event, that's a sign of trust, whereas waiting a bit longer before sharing might evoke a different set of associations.

Did the ex know about the current situation of their fiancé when making this offer? In other words, did they make this move knowing that the person is engaged? Because if they knew, it seems like a more intentional and disturbing attempt; if they didn't know, could there be something unclear regarding the fiancé's previous relationship?

Did your ex try to reach out again through another channel after the proposal? For example, social media or something. Because sometimes a person blocked on one platform tries their luck elsewhere, and how your fiancé reacts in these situations is also important. You need to pay attention to whether something is happening quietly.

It's strange for an ex to make such an offer, but the way your fiancé conveyed this to you is actually more noteworthy. I mean, when sharing the details of the situation, how did they express this? Did they present their stance directly, or did they convey it in a more neutral way? Because in such matters, I think the perspective of the person telling the story and their emotional state are just as important as the event itself.

The fact that the ex has made this offer suggests that your fiancé has some idea about their current life, but the issue is not so much your fiancé's response to this as it is how informed you are about this situation. Is there a detail that hasn't been shared with you, or is there a part that has been left out? Because sometimes, more than the event itself, the gaps in its narration create questions.

Knowing your fiancée's dialogue evolved to this point with an ex shows how she defines her "relationship boundaries." Do you think she is someone who is clear about setting boundaries in her other relationships as well (work, friends, etc.)? Because a person’s general communication style reveals itself in such crisis moments.

What were the last conversations with this ex before the proposal about? Was it just a casual catch-up, or did it feel like a more special connection to the past was established? Because the tone of the last communication before the proposal can indicate the source of the courage.

Are you sure that your fiancé has completely removed his ex from his life after this incident? I mean, after the proposal, was there a moment when he showed a tendency to "back away gently"? Because in situations like this, if there isn't clarity, the question of whether he has "completely closed the door" always lingers in the back.

If an ex made a proposal like this, you have to consider your fiancé's communication up until that moment. How was it possible to have so much "contact" with the ex while being engaged? I mean, the proposal is just the result; the comfort during the process is more critical. Didn't any red flags come up for them at all?

If an ex is making this proposal knowing that the other person is engaged, could it be that the seriousness or boundaries of the fiancé's relationship were not fully conveyed? Because such a proposal seems like a sign of confidence that trivializes the current relationship. It appears to stem either from the ex still seeing the fiancé as a possibility or from the fiancé not being able to clearly establish some boundaries. How "truly" finished is the communication between the two?

I was also curious whether you discussed this situation face-to-face with your fiancé or explained it through a message. Because expressions and body language in face-to-face conversations give direct insights, but written communication can sometimes feel incomplete or more controlled. What was the dynamic like at the moment this incident was being explained?

How did you feel when you first heard your fiancé's response to your ex's proposal? Was it an immediate sense of trust or was there a hint of "strangeness"? Because sometimes, while a story is being told, the impression it leaves on you at that moment can be a more accurate indicator than the words spoken. Did you sense any doubt from the beginning, or did you start to think about it later?

Have you ever thought about what would have happened if your fiancé hadn't made this proposal to you? I mean, if this situation had occurred completely without your knowledge, would you have realized it? Because sometimes, the act of telling itself is hard to differentiate — is it a way to lighten a burden, or is it a move trying to show that one is in control?

So, how was the timing of your fiancé's proposal to tell you? I mean, was it said right at that moment, or was there a waiting period in between? Because sharing it immediately seems honest, but delayed explanations can sometimes give off the feeling of "I wouldn’t have said anything if there wasn’t a conflict."

Don't you think it's necessary for your fiancé to thoroughly describe the last conversation with the ex before the proposal? Because if it was brushed off with "what did we even talk about, it was a simple thing", that could actually be the key point. An assertive proposal like that doesn't just happen out of nowhere; it seems like some groundwork must have been laid beforehand.

Did you have any contact with your ex after the proposal, have you heard anything from them? Because the real test begins when you can completely close such an event. I think your fiancé's attitude after the proposal determines whether this story is the "end" or not.

I wish I could have directly seen the reaction of the fiancé when the ex-girlfriend made the proposal despite knowing he was engaged. Do you think she drew a clear line at that moment, or did she say something a bit vague? Because just like the proposal itself, the tone of the reaction at that instant is also important. In such situations, even a clear "this is never possible" isn't strong enough if it doesn't close the issue.

So, did your fiancé provide any information that he completely cut off communication with his ex after that offer? Because in such a situation, it's important to be clear that "no further steps will be taken." Otherwise, the ex might be tempted to make a bolder move since there was a previous attempt.

Did your ex know for sure that you were engaged when they made that offer? Because if they did it knowingly, then there's an issue of insincerity on their part, and how your fiancé responds to that becomes even more critical. Did you clarify this in your conversation?

So, how can you be sure that your fiancée's account of events after her ex's proposal is complete? Is there a possibility that she might skip over the details of the proposal or other conversations that happened before it? I think she may have selectively shared certain things; this requires considering not just what is told but also what is left unsaid.

Is there any context or environment where they encountered each other before the proposal with this ex? For example, at work, in their social circle, or in an online interaction? Because it seems unlikely that someone would just come out of nowhere and say something like this; I would look for traces of prior contact.

Knowing that your ex is engaged and still coming up with such a proposal feels like a kind of challenge. Did your fiancé have a reaction in this situation that especially highlighted you? Or did the proposal remain individual as if it was made to them? Because in such situations, if there is a lack of emphasis on "we" in the reaction, these kinds of bold moves are not prevented.

How far back does the communication period with the ex before the proposal go? Because if there has been a recent contact and additionally, such a gesture came from someone who has been silent for a long time, one must question whether both parties have completely closed their old issues. I wouldn't expect such a direct proposal in a completely finished relationship.

The fact that he came to you directly after receiving the proposal reflects how your fiancé perceives the situation as well. But I'm curious about this: during that moment of explanation, was he uncomfortable, or did he talk about it as if it were just an ordinary thing? Because sometimes, the meaning attributed to the event is more defining than the details themselves.

I still can't fully understand how your ex's fiancé carried themselves while making this proposal. Could they have softened their own role a bit in what they told you? Because sometimes people cut out certain details to present themselves as completely blameless. It's hard to trust without getting a clearer understanding of their demeanor there.

After your ex's proposal, it's important to understand whether they reached out again knowing you are engaged. Because they may have rejected the proposal, but if the other party is still looking for a glimmer of hope, a clear boundary needs to be established. Was this boundary set, or was it just brushed off by saying "the matter is closed"?

As much as the fiancé's description after the proposal, the reaction given to the ex during that moment is also important. Did they give a clear response like "I’m engaged, this proposal is wrong," or did they brush it off with something more vague? Because sometimes the courage of the other party comes from the attitude of the person they’re facing.

So, did you consider the possibility that your fiancé had spoken to someone else about this offer before telling you? I mean, seeking advice from a friend or sharing the situation, for example. Sometimes, the sincerity of the situation and how it reflects on the fiancé can also depend on that interim process, I think.

I suggest you think about what your ex is trying to achieve with this offer. Is she trying to provoke you through your fiancé, or is there some kind of "open door" in her mind? Just as important as your fiancé's reaction is the motivation of your ex, because this is not just about an offer.

The management of the process after the instant reaction of the fiancé to the proposal is just as critical as the motivation of the ex. For example, did they completely cut off communication with the ex after the proposal? Or did they try to maintain some kind of "friendly" connection somehow after saying "no"? Sometimes, beneath responses that seem like a definitive "no," a door may be left open, so pay attention to that.

The ex seems to not have delved much into why the fiancé was in contact with him when making this proposal. So, is this proposal described as coming out of nowhere, or did the tone and frequency of their communication prior to this give any signals of such a thing? Because in a completely severed relationship, such a proposal would seem a bit unplanned, right?

The timing of your fiancé's proposal story is actually important. Did they tell you right after the proposal, or did they wait for a while before you asked? Because sometimes the issue of "telling at the right time" can indicate the sincerity of their intentions. Have you ever questioned that interval?

What do you think about your fiancé being so comfortable communicating with their ex before the proposal? I mean, we're focusing on the "proposal" part, but I think the reason your fiancé is maintaining that communication is more critical. Did you ask them about it directly?

I was wondering, how did your fiancé express his communication with his ex while telling you about this? Did he say something like "there were mandatory conversations," or did he convey it in a more relaxed tone? Because apart from the offer from the ex, how your fiancé perceives this communication is also important; is it a necessity or a continued bond by choice?

Have you ever thought about whether the courage of an ex's proposal stems from your fiancé's previous behaviors? I mean, the communication prior to the proposal might give some hints about how your fiancé positioned themselves. Were the boundaries clear there?

So how did you make sure that your fiancée completely cut off communication with her ex after this offer? I mean, it’s one thing for her to tell you she said "no," but did that really mean the connection was closed behind the scenes? Communication can be managed now without leaving traces; have you clarified that?

Did your ex know how much your fiancé was aware of your relationship when making such a bold proposal? I mean, did your fiancé set a clear boundary about this before, or did your ex think, "I still have a chance"? Because the seriousness of this offer could reveal hidden gaps in communication.

I think the main question is this: What was your fiancé's motivation to tell you in the face of such a serious proposal? Did they share it with you because they were experiencing some discomfort internally, or were they concerned that you might hear about this proposal from another source? Both scenarios convey very different messages.

Did anything catch your attention about the words or facial expressions your fiancé used while describing this offer? I mean, after discussing something like this, people usually feel a sense of embarrassment or slight unease, or on the contrary, they might be overly relaxed. Perhaps this way of expressing it would help you understand how your fiancé approaches situations better.

I think the response time of the fiancée is important when the ex-boyfriend made this proposal. I mean, how quickly did she say "no"? If she left a space to think about it, to weigh the situation, then there might be a need for questioning there. For example, why didn't she immediately share her reflex at that moment?

How your fiancé expressed this proposal is as important as whether you felt anything about this situation before learning about it. Did you notice a distance or something strange before they told you? Because sometimes the real clue lies in previous behavioral changes.

I think you should also consider the tone used by the ex while making this proposal and the reaction of the fiancé. For example, did the ex use a language that could be close enough to have a place in the fiancé's life? Because this kind of courage sometimes stems from the other party not being clear enough previously.

I think the context of the moment when the ex-partner made this proposal is important. That is, did they make the proposal knowing that you are in your fiancé's life, or was this information revealed to them at that moment? If it's the first situation, it might indicate that your fiancé hasn't been able to establish their own boundaries, or that the other party isn't taking those boundaries seriously. If it's the second situation, does your fiancé's "late disclosure" raise a question about how many other things they've kept inside?

I find the timing of this offer from your fiancé to be thought-provoking. Did they bring it up after everything settled down and completely cooled off, or did they talk about it when the issue was still hot? The time that passed can reveal how your fiancé processed this situation in their mind and how they conveyed it to you.

The fact that an ex is coming to the fiancé with such a proposal also makes one ponder how much access the fiancé has left to her. Is this proposal completely a desperate courage, or is there still a bond they have maintained? Frankly, one must question where the ex found such power.

If your ex made this proposal, you also need to question not only your fiancé's response but also why and how that conversation took place. In other words, how did this "proposal situation" come about? Was it a coincidence, a planned communication, or a continuation of an old habit? I think the critical point is how such a dialogue opportunity arose.

The courage of this ex to come forward with such a proposal in front of your fiancé, could it be that before getting engaged there was ever any mention of "we still talk every now and then"? If there is a completely cut-off past, this courage is even stranger, but if there is still some form of communication, things get a bit murky. Where does this confidence come from?

Did your fiancé ever try to downplay the story of their ex's proposal while telling you about it, or make it seem like a "funny memory"? Because sometimes the real message is hidden in the weird ease they have while recounting the situation. Or on the flip side, if they were overly defensive, I suggest you think about that.

Is it possible that your fiancé consulted someone else before making this proposal without telling you? I mean, could they have had a situation where they asked a friend, their family, or someone else, "something like this happened, what should I do?" Because sometimes, it’s not about the behavior itself, but that behind-the-scenes process of seeking advice reveals everything.

Is it clear whether the ex-girlfriend made this proposal while communicating face-to-face with the fiancé or through messaging or a phone call? Because a proposal made in person increases the likelihood of a planned meeting. On the other hand, if she made efforts to reach out anonymously, it raises questions about where in the fiancé's life she is still "reachable."

Do you know your fiancé's immediate response to this proposal? Because just as the environment in which the proposal was made is important, so is the reaction your fiancé gave at that moment. Were they able to cut off the ex directly, or did they give a more ambiguous response, perhaps managing the situation? I think not setting a clear and firm boundary immediately in such a case raises alarm bells.

Did the topic of the proposal come up from your fiancé or did you bring it up somehow after finding out? Because if it was brought up due to your prompting, there may have already been a tendency to hide some things at that point. Also, when he conveyed the proposal, did he choose the details carefully, or did he explain everything openly? Did you pay attention to that?

Now, was the ex's fiancé aware of the relationship status at the moment the proposal was made? Because if they didn’t know that they were still engaged when making this move, the situation changes significantly. However, if they knew and did it anyway, then we really need to reevaluate the dynamics between them.

So, could it be that your ex's courage to make such a proposal stems from your fiancé's behavior or the doors left open? In other words, did the ex see this as a "let me take a chance" moment, or could there have been some form of communication beforehand where your fiancé gave him some kind of space? Or did he act completely on a whim?

Could the ex-partner have drawn from the fiancée's previous behaviors when making their proposal? It's been discussed, but here's another angle: This proposal could also have been made to create a power balance struggle within the relationship. In other words, could the ex-partner have aimed for the fiancée to lose favor in your eyes? If so, it's important for them to understand not only the details shared with you but also how they expect this move to impact your relationship dynamic.

Until the moment the proposal came, did you ever question whether your fiancé was still in contact with their ex? I mean, the proposal might have been declined, but is there any kind of messaging that happened after that point, something like a "friendly" contact? Because sometimes the true tendency hides in the continuation after a rejection.

The ex showed their true intentions with this proposal, but have you ever thought about whether your fiancé has contact with other exes apart from this one? In other words, is this situation just what you see, or could the "exes" issue be a larger knot? Sometimes what arises shadows what's hidden.

I think the timing of your ex's proposal to tell your fiancée is important. Did they share it immediately after the proposal, or how long did they wait in the chain of events? Because if they gave a proper reaction during the incident and then delayed sharing it with you, it implies some hesitation. Now, it's necessary to discern whether they used honesty in the moment or strategically.

Maybe the ex wanted to intentionally create a dent in your fiancé's current relationship's foundation with this proposal, sure. But how much thought did you give to how your fiancé told you this story? Did he relay it to present himself as justified and innocent, or did he convey it in a way that fully reflects the seriousness of the situation? Because those are two different things.

But are you sure your fiancé has completely removed the ex from their life? I mean, let's say after the proposal they said "I'm done with them," but does that really show that they completely cut off this relationship? Sometimes people can close a door but leave it ajar. It's important to pay attention to that.

It is assumed that the ex-boyfriend made this offer entirely on his own initiative, but I think the striking part of the situation is that the fiancé has created a space in which the ex-boyfriend still feels emboldened to do something like this. Has the fiancé truly been able to close off the past relationship with a definitive boundary? Or was there an ongoing state of "maybe" between them? This needs to be clarified.

If your ex made such an offer and your fiancé has told you about it, there is one important detail: was the offer a surprise to him, or was he in a relational dynamic that prepared the ground for this proposal? You might interpret his sharing this with you as honesty, but is this honesty a forced defense as a result of his previous actions? It's necessary to evaluate honesty from the right perspective.

It's rumored that the reason your ex offered such a suggestion has to do with the "space" your fiancé gave them, but the real question is this: How did your fiancé express themselves when rejecting the offer? Did they simply say "no," or did they reject it by clearly articulating the value of your relationship? Because in both scenarios, it's a conclusion, but the details that reveal intentions could be hidden here.

It's already strange for an ex to come up with such a proposal, but do you remember your fiancé's emotional state while conveying this to you? Was he uncomfortable, or did he explain it calmly and composedly? The difference clarifies how much he "valued" the event. If he just brushed it off, I'd question his seriousness.

After making this offer to your ex, did communication completely stop? Is what your fiancé described the "final state" of the situation, or is there something developing? Sometimes people create the impression that things are completely over while maintaining little contact on the side. Especially the part about "we haven't talked again"—is that certain? Have you checked?

The fact that my ex is proposing so casually makes me question my fiancé's ability to set boundaries. Was there an air of "no problem" in their communication that made my ex see this as a normal option? Or did this proposal come out of nowhere, because such a step wouldn’t be taken without some sort of foundation.

How quickly and directly your fiancé addressed the situation after the ex offered is also an important indicator. It's not just about how they conveyed it to you, but also how they reacted toward the ex at that moment, and how they wrapped up that dialogue. If the ex still has any hope, the sincerity of that closure might be questioned. Did they give you a detailed account of their reaction, or did they merely approach it with a "I told you, it's done" attitude?

Didn’t you ask what your ex said about your fiancé while making this offer? I mean, was there something like "we might still have a chance," or was it completely one-sided encouragement? I think how they perceive the old relationship is also important.

Is your fiancé's telling you about it honesty or a way to protect themselves against the risk of it being heard from somewhere else? Only the intention of your ex is being discussed regarding this proposal, but actually, your fiancé's decision-making process during that time is more important. In addition to how they chose to tell you, the timing of the disclosure is also significant. Did they tell you at the moment the proposal was made, or days later? There is a big difference between the two.