My boss constantly wants me to deliver reports in person at my new job, but no one else is treated this way, right? Sometimes he asks unnecessary questions about my personal life and stuff. Do you think this is normal, or am I sensing something? I can't say anything because I'm afraid.
Yeah, I had a similar experience. At the time, I didn't realize it, but later I understood that the guy was really interested. It's strange that he wanted the reports from you personally, I mean, I don't think someone would go into that much detail just for work 😬
My daughter, even if things may not be noticed immediately in these workplaces, they eventually come to light. If someone constantly intrudes into your personal life and wants to get involved in personal matters, that is a crossing of a boundary. No one can impose such a burden on you.
You shouldn't immediately assume bad intentions like that. Maybe they noticed your attention to detail, so they have this approach thinking you might not be bringing the reports carefully. Everyone just labels everything as 'harassment' right away nowadays.
Now, the situation is a bit unclear. The boss's comment, "if you are detail-oriented, we understand well," may be work-related, but questions about personal life could cross the professional boundary. If these questions make you uncomfortable, you might consider consulting a human resources expert or a supervisor at your workplace. Also, make sure to keep communication in writing for significant matters.
Friends, let me give you a couple more details. For example, the other day they asked questions like "do you like working together, what kind of person do you think I resemble?" Is this conversation normal, everything feels too personal to me now 🥲
There's something else going on here. They could literally be checking your pulse, both the personal questions and that whole 'what kind of person are you' thing seemed a bit weird. Maybe they have more serious intentions, but they might be really afraid of showing it 😅
Friend, to those saying "let's not immediately look for bad intentions": why would a boss interrogate you about your personal life? Is it measured by a report to determine if you're detail-oriented? Where's the logic in that? 😳
Just say it. If they ask about your personal life a few more times, you can professionally say, 'I prefer not to answer, let's stay focused on work.' Report anything that makes you uncomfortable to human resources in writing, as verbal complaints can be forgotten 🤭
