My boss at work constantly looks me in the eye, and sometimes approaches me unnecessarily to talk. Honestly, there isn't any concrete harassment, but what I feel is bothering me. Do you think it would be professional to express such a situation, or would it seem like I am being too sensitive?
How long have you been noticing this? Does he only act like this in work conversations, or does he also bring up unrelated topics sometimes? Maybe his intentions aren't what you think, but if it happens all the time and makes you feel bad, it's something to take seriously.
I think you should clearly show that you feel uncomfortable through gestures and expressions. For example, look away while talking, keep your answers short. If this doesn't work, bring it up in a formal setting like a one-on-one meeting. Instead of saying something personal directly, talk through the lens of 'professionalism.'
Experiencing such discomfort at work is really frustrating. One can't even feel comfortable in their own space. Especially if someone gets too close to me, I immediately tend to withdraw. Maybe you could try to stay a bit more formal when speaking to convey that distance?
One of our teachers would sometimes give strange looks during class, and everyone noticed. When we talked among ourselves, we obsessed over it more, but we couldn't directly say anything. If it's a topic you're open to discussing with someone in your friend circle, you can get their opinion; sometimes it looks clearer from the outside.
The way my patron looks at me makes me uncomfortable. Should I try to express my discomfort? I'm thinking about checking with a guide if there's one available.
I’ll play devil's advocate, but maybe that’s just his style? I mean, there are communication styles that always emphasize eye contact. Or maybe he’s approaching to get extra information about what’s happening in the office, after all, he’s the boss. Blaming him without a bigger issue seems a bit harsh.
Let me update you: Actually, what I noticed is that this gaze was less at first, but it seems to have increased in the last few months. The approach is always through work, but sometimes it feels unnecessary to me. The company has an HR policy, but it’s very formal and everyone knows each other; I even hesitate to voice it.
Have you ever thought about skipping HR and consulting a lawyer directly? Not just for complaints, but to learn about the procedures. Because if a legal right stands like a stick at the workplace, the guy will automatically keep his distance. Look into this.
