My partner has been experiencing financial difficulties for a while and asked me for a loan. Honestly, I want to help, but on the other hand, I feel bad. What if they don't pay me back or make this a habit? I love them very much, but I'm afraid this situation could harm our relationship. What would you do if you were in my shoes?
I definitely recommend that you create a written protocol before providing any help. When lending money, make sure to document details such as the amount and the term in writing. Because financial matters can be delicate in relationships, no matter how much trust there is, the details can be forgotten later. I suggest being cautious to avoid any potential legal issues.
I also lent money to my girlfriend in the past, but to be open, I couldn't get it back. I even had to end the relationship because it's literally exhausting for both parties. If you want to help, I think you should give her an amount you consider as non-recoverable.
Daughter, if I were you, I wouldn't give it. How right is it to ask for a loan while still in the dating phase of a relationship? These things can turn into habits before marriage. It can undermine your trust and your love. That's how it is, be very careful with yourself.
Thank you all, let me provide a few more details. Actually, they had asked a couple of times before, but it wasn't such a serious amount and they had paid it back. Now, a slightly higher sum is at stake. I was embarrassed to write this down, but they
But did you notice that your partner has asked for this several times before and you accepted it from the beginning? Once someone does it once, they gain courage. Maybe you didn't set clear boundaries, which could have caused them to act this way. It seems like the reins are a bit in your hands.
