I didn't notice this at first, but I discovered it the other day and it really bothered me. I know they followed before our relationship started, but I still don't understand why they didn't delete it. I'm afraid if I ask, they'll say 'What's the big deal?' Do you think I'm making a big deal out of nothing, or should I bring it up?
This issue came up in our relationship as well. He was following his ex and called me a "nobody." But I told him I was uncomfortable, and he deleted it two days later. So, talking about it can change things. Instead of blowing it out of proportion, I think it's better to ask openly.
I'm sorry, but you noticed it at first and didn't say anything. Now it seems like you're just starting to voice your discomfort. Why wasn't it such a big deal before? I think you should reflect on yourself a bit.
we see this as a frequently occurring situation. People generally stay involved not by intent, but by habit. The main issue is being able to talk about this without arguing. When you ask, indicate why you want to know instead of being accusatory 😅
Let me update you: I asked, and he really responded with something like, 'Why were you bothered?' He even said he couldn't fully remember the name of my ex. But I still don't feel at ease, like he brushed it off.
I think following up is still confusing. Especially if there are no clear boundaries in the relationship. But some men really don’t care, it might also be out of laziness. My ex used to say, 'What will change if I delete it?' then he was still messaging... I'd say be a little careful.
