We have been together for 3 months and the relationship is going well, but he is still friends with his ex on social media. Honestly, it bothers me. I'm hesitant to ask him because might it come off as jealousy? Do you think this situation is normal, or do you think I might be overreacting?
I think these things are sensitive points in every relationship. To be honest, my ex also used to follow his ex-girlfriend, and it seemed weird to me, so I asked him about it. The guy said, 'We don't even talk anyway,' but I wasn't at ease with it. At first, just state this openly; it can be resolved before it grows too big.
Honestly, this has been going around in my head. Why is he still following his ex? If I were to follow, I’d probably not be able to forget the past or something. Maybe there’s still a connection between them, otherwise, why can’t he let it go? 🥲
I think you should just ask directly. Instead of letting it grow in your mind, ask and listen to the explanation. If they become defensive or react strangely, then you can talk about it in more detail. But this confusion won't be resolved without having that conversation 😬
I think you should completely leave the past behind when you say beloved. Staying in touch, communicating with an ex doesn't seem normal to me. If you start on the path to marriage, such things will cause you trouble. Either the guy will completely cut ties, or your priorities will no longer be clear.
Let me add that we haven't had any discussions about this because I haven't said anything. But I feel uncomfortable every time I see it. It's as if they are not in constant communication; there are no comments or anything, but there is follow-up, you know. I'm still unsure about whether I should ask.
This situation is a sensitive topic in terms of relationship boundaries. Everyone has some kind of background on social media, so it's important to clarify these boundaries. If you think this following is disturbing for you and can't express it, it becomes difficult to evaluate the relationship healthily. By having a conversation, you can openly express your feelings and learn about their perspective as well.
I completely disagree. People don’t have to cut all ties to their past relationships. It might be a situation that bothers you, but it could mean you’re not respecting their freedom. Your discomfort also shows some jealousy, and you should reflect on that.
