I've noticed something that's bothering me; I saw that my partner messaged their ex-girlfriend on Instagram. The messages don't seem to mean much, but why would they do something like that? Should I ask them about it or wait and be more careful? I'm literally questioning myself like crazy, is there a trust issue? Do you think I'm making a big deal out of it?
I've experienced something similar; he had messaged his ex. I asked about it, but he brushed it off saying, 'It's not a big deal, just friendly.' After a while, the same thing happened again. Honestly, I think it would be better if you talked to him directly. Otherwise, it's going to eat away at you.
Well, if those messages don't mean much right now, there might not be a need to overthink it, in my opinion. Look, you're stressing over 'why would someone do that?' but it might just be something innocent. I'd say check what was written and in what context before jumping to conclusions.
It's important to have an open and healthy conversation before jumping to any conclusions about message content. You can directly ask your partner for a clear explanation. However, if you're questioning yourself or have feelings related to trust, it might be important to dive a bit deeper and address this trust issue.
Let me add this: the messages aren't very long or romantic or anything like that. They talked about an old memory, but he sent the message at night. Honestly, the timing is what makes me wonder. How innocent can it be at night?
Texting at night is really strange, you know? I mean, sure it could be friendly, but texting at night makes you think they feel something. Plus, what's the point of digging up the past like that? Just ask directly, 'Why did you text me at night?' I think.
I think the issue isn't just in the message. You say they wrote at night, talked about memories, and so on, but do you think they still have some kind of connection? For instance, could there be other ways they communicated, what they did outside of DMs, etc.? I have so many crazy questions in my head...
