When I took back 1 TL change in front of my girlfriend, did I look stingy?

I get it. The issue there isn't 1 TL, it's the strange theater someone makes with their own money. If your partner has blown this up, I think there’s something else on their mind beyond just the change.

I take even a 10 kuruş, then it comes in handy in the car. If romance means burning money at the checkout, then I'm not in that club.

At first, everyone is watching each other too much. Just because you've got the money doesn't mean you'll be stingy, but maybe they were expecting a gesture. Still, making this a matter of sulking is childish.

The cashier is handing over 1 TL there, are you really going to look up dramatically with music in the background? Just take it 🤭

It’s important to differentiate this: leaving a tip for the waiter is different from getting change at the grocery store/cafe counter. It doesn’t make sense to put them in the same category 🙄

When I let it go, I get annoyed inside saying, "why did I let it go now?" The rich role lasts two seconds, but the need for change lasts three days.

Of course, take it, my daughter. Is there a rule that you shouldn’t take change when you’re with your boyfriend? Honestly, going shopping with someone who analyzes character based on such small things is exhausting 🙂

@hatconene exactly, but there's also this aspect: if someone splits every single penny across accounts, they start to get fed up. If that's the only thing going on, it's an exaggeration; if it's a habit, that's another issue 🙄

Update: I asked today, it turns out his ex is calculating everything down to the last penny, he compared me to her. I said, "I reached for the money the cashier handed over, not her." We laughed, but it was a bit awkward too.

@bozukparapanigi this has really been discussed well. But judging the supermarket cashier under the shadow of an ex is a bit too quick 😬

Being compared to an ex is already an annoying thing, but is it healthy to think like that in such a minor situation? Does he react similarly in other matters, or was this just a momentary reflex? I think he should pay a bit more attention.

Now think from the exact opposite perspective: how many different scenarios are looping in the mind of someone who links everything back to an ex-relationship trauma over just 1 TL? I mean, you make a small move, and they write an entire story. Isn't that a bit exhausting?