I've been flirting with this boy for 3 months, we constantly message each other but he's never once said "let's meet up." I'm thinking of suggesting it, but at the same time I'm being prideful. Do you think it's normal for him to wait this long or should I just let him go? Honestly, I'm really confused, what would you do if you were in my position?
I think you should make the move. Things like this happen all the time at university; it doesn't really matter who takes the first step. Maybe they're a shy person or feel more comfortable talking online.
Actually, three months isn't a very long time. Dating is a bit like a period of exploration and getting used to each other. They might be expecting you to take a step as well. I think you should ask something like "when are we meeting?" mixed with a joke, just to test the waters.
I was wondering, have you ever hinted at it to her before? Are you waiting for her to just say "let's meet up," or have you never given any signals either? Maybe her hesitation is due to a fear of rejection 😅
Isn't this a bit strange? Talking for three months without meeting… Even if I am a shy person, I think one would at least ask once. I wonder if they are looking for a flirt who communicates more through messages? 😅
Look, it's really important for both parties to take initiative during the flirting phase. It's not about who made the suggestion, but starting the relationship off on an uneven footing can cause problems later on. Maybe if you make the suggestion, the other person will feel more at ease and communication will become clearer.
Let me update you. I never actually implied anything, so maybe it could also be a mistake to wait entirely for him to make a move. But for example, he is quite talkative online; I can't be sure if he would be shy face-to-face.
Someone just said, "three months isn't a long time," really? I think if a flirtation doesn't lead somewhere in a few weeks, it should be over. Sometimes it's just not worth wasting energy on situations like that.
