We have been communicating for 3 months, talking on the phone occasionally, but he never suggests meeting up. I wonder if he doesn't like me or if he just lacks the courage; I have no idea. Would it be right for me to take the first step, or is it more logical to wait? Honestly, I’m confused. As a woman, what should I do?
Honestly, if you've been flirting for 3 months but no date proposal has come yet, I think that's a bit thought-provoking. If a guy is interested, he definitely wants to take you out. So this isn't about courage; it's more about priorities.
I had a similar experience; we had been messaging and talking for weeks, but our meeting was always postponed. Then I found out he was seeing someone else. Of course, not everyone is the same, but I think if someone is serious, they wouldn't play games like that 😳
To be honest, being a bit passive as a woman wastes a lot of time. Sometimes men are afraid of being misunderstood. I'm not saying to make a direct offer, but mention going somewhere and see what the reaction is like 😅
If a meeting has not taken place despite the time that has passed in communication, there may be two possibilities: you are either dealing with a very shy person or they actually have no clear expectations. To understand the distinction, try to speak more openly.
Let me add something, I actually hinted that I wanted to go out a few times. Like one day I said, 'It’s really nice outside today' or something, and the other person said, 'I’m going to the cinema,' or something like that. But they always seemed to brush it off. Should I have made it more obvious, I wonder? 😐
There might be someone else here for me. Either they still haven't gotten over their ex, or they're thinking about a backup rather than you. Because this has been going on seriously for 3 months. It feels like they might be mixing in other things 😳
So, shouldn't we break free from the notion that 'the woman waits, the man makes the proposal'? If there's someone you like, you should clearly express that you want to meet up. But at the same time, you need to convey the message 'My time is valuable too'; you don't have to show endless patience to anyone.
I think it's a really confusing situation. Just thinking about them writing it while going to the cinema is unsettling. If the issue is courage, it can be resolved, but if it’s just keeping you occupied, the situation changes. Waiting makes it harder; it's already evident from here that this uncertainty has stuck in your mind.
I went through exactly the same process, we literally communicated through messages for 2 months. One day, I initiated a meeting, but he was so reluctant. Later, I realized that he had someone in his life and was just keeping the conversation alive to boost his ego. I hope it's not the same for you, but I suggest you keep your eyes open.
