As everyone knows, thereâs a promotion situation at my workplace, but my family is really putting pressure on me about it. Theyâre saying things like âDonât get promoted, you wonât stay at the job, you wonât be able to get married.â Iâm under a lot of stress; I need to get this promotion, but at the same time, I want it for myself. What kind of path should I take?
Family pressure is already stress in itself. Once, just because I wanted to advance in my own job, my mom literally said, âYouâll stay at home.â You need to learn to filter these things.
Letâs not confuse motivation with pressure. One supports you, the other nags you. If my mom had pressured me to âget a promotion,â I think I would have given up on my job.
Do you really want to go to the terfi, or is your family presenting it as a ânecessityâ? I think thatâs the critical point.
@uykuarasi Iâm actually wanting a bit for myself, but the family pressure is really exhausting. As if thatâs not enough, thereâs also the constant saying of âyou wonât be able to get married later.â
If you want to get promoted, you need to manage the process first. Have a direct conversation with your family about âthis is my life.â But donât buckle under the pressure on your shoulders to avoid losing the opportunity. Consider discussing the promotion stress with your manager.
@camkenari I think you canât speak so definitively. Families can sometimes lead you in the wrong direction, but they might also have experiences. Itâs not fair to say âtighten your throatâ just off the top of your head.
Itâs like the family is looking for âmarriageâ in everything. Itâs quite troubling.