Last night, my mom brought up the topic in a weird way. Apparently, my aunt went to see her and shared that my fiancé had a serious relationship with someone in the past. I felt like my mom was trying to confuse me by saying, 'You should investigate his past.' Do these events make me question my engagement? Or is my aunt unnecessarily stirring things up? Should I escalate this?
It's the issue of mother-in-law... I've experienced something similar; my mom was constantly questioning my fiancé's family. We ended up calling off the engagement, but it wasn't my mom's fault, it was due to other issues between us. I think you should think carefully.
Has your fiancé directly confronted this issue with you? Or is he talking behind your back and throwing shade at your mother? Try to see who this situation is actually affecting.
@pazardandondum they didn't say anything directly to us, but my aunt seems to have mentioned something about my fiancé to other people, I think my mom heard it. So, it’s all a bit chaotic.
@camkenari I think this example doesn't apply because your engagement ended due to your mom pressuring you. The situation here is completely different; it's being questioned because the past with the fiancé is being discussed. 😳
@soncaykaldi the main issue is your fiancé's attitude. Everyone can have a past relationship, but is he hiding this? Could it lead to problems? That's what to look at. As you said, things are complicated, but it can be clarified.
I don't understand why auntie is going to so much trouble.
