My spouse and I are constantly arguing, especially about money issues. My family says, 'Get a divorce, we'll support you,' but it feels like I'm making this decision under their pressure. On one hand, I'm unhappy, but what if I regret it later? In this situation, which side should I listen to; my family or my heart?
I was also arguing with my spouse about financial matters at one point. I constantly felt inadequate over everything, then I thought a lot. When I woke up in the morning feeling restless next to him, I told myself the relationship was over. One morning, question this situation as well; what is your inner voice saying when you're next to them?
Family support is important, but it can't be the only reason to make a decision. What will happen if you break up and then can’t stand it and go back? My friend went through a lot because of this; his family didn't talk to him for a long time. I would advise you to be sure before making a decision.
What kind of logic is this? They say, "We'll support you in getting a divorce," but what will you do if they pull away? Even if your family's intentions are good, they're not the ones living your marriage. Is your heart saying you're unhappy, or are you just hearing their voices?
A feeling of hopelessness, especially if it stems from prolonged financial stress, may require couples therapy. What is the root of these discussions: debt, planning, or simply a difference in expectations? A serious analysis is needed; you might not even be aware of it.
I was actually thinking about listening to my family and taking a deep breath, but as you said, their good intentions can only go so far. I suggested talking to my spouse, but they rejected therapy. Now I feel even more confused, did I really try or not?
I think refusing therapy is a separate red flag. A person who wants to save the relationship tries; they accept their mistakes if they have any. It's like saying, 'There's a problem, but let's not fix it.' Why are you holding onto this?
You mentioned financial issues, is there debt, or is your partner unable to manage the expenses? If the relationship is being harmed, then it's more likely that you'll get caught in the same cycle; family support may provide short-term relief, but I think the real problem won't be solved.
