There's not a big problem between my spouse and me, but my family keeps saying, 'Save yourself, find a job,' and so on. Yes, my spouse is a bit controlling, but they love me. Do they want me to get a divorce and stand on my own two feet, or is this truly the right thing to do? What would you do if you were in my shoes?
What kind of advice is this? It's ridiculous for them to annoy you with things like "get divorced, earn your own money." You're saying there's no big problem in your marriage, so why is the family getting so involved? Listen to everyone's opinions, but ultimately, it's your life.
I think you clearly need to mention your partner a bit as well. Are you underestimating the issue of control? You say she loves you, but what if love isn't enough? When family says divorce, they immediately become the guilty party, but maybe they see things you aren't aware of? Analyze it a bit without an emotional approach.
The issue of control in marriage is a big topic. If you're unable to find job opportunities because of someone like that, then this is not an equal relationship. It's essential to take steps for work and income freedom. If there is a solution other than divorce, definitely try to discuss it; going to a therapist together might even help.
I want to add that my spouse didn't want me to quit my job; I had already quit due to my family's pressure. Now, getting back to work is normally possible, but what my family is saying is confusing me. Outside of control, there isn't any serious fighting, but my family talks so much that I've become indecisive.
But the real issue is this: in our society, if a woman works, they question why she is working; if she doesn't, they say she is dependent on her husband; there's always something! What do you want? A job? Freedom? We understand family pressure, but is it worth shaking your marriage? If you're finding a solution, why separation?
