The other day, my mom criticized the dress my girlfriend was wearing very harshly. My girlfriend was upset about this and even got a little angry. How can I convince my mom not to let these kinds of things happen? I need to protect my girlfriend, but I also don't want to have issues with my mom.
she's really overdoing it, for sure 🙄
What was your girlfriend's dress like? Was it very revealing or did it just seem that way to your mom?
@kahvebitmeden I actually found it quite normal, sleeveless, knee-length, but the color might be a bit eye-catching.
I think it's more important to understand your mother's boundaries than for the dress to be normal. This could just be the beginning.
Your mother's reactions may be related not to the clothing but to a sense of control. There might be something behind this, like a 'fear of loss.' Listen to your mother calmly, and try to understand from her perspective.
let's gift mom a long-sleeved tunic, so we can wrap up the style issue. :)
something similar happened to my male cousin. his mother even commented on his girlfriend's hair dye. They both didn't react at the same time to prevent things from escalating, and it worked 🫢
@benbisorayim do we really need such a deep analysis? your mother might be acting entirely by coercion.
Is Annen doing this with other clothes as well, or did she only attach it to this dress? Is it a one-time discomfort or a constant intervention? It matters. I think it needs to be clarified.
