I introduced my girlfriend to my mom, but she kept bombarding me with questions like ‘What does she do?’, ‘What does her family do?’. On one hand, I think she doesn’t like her, but on the other hand, maybe it’s just normal mom behavior. What should I do in this situation, do you think she is right?
my mom didn’t really like my girlfriend when she met her, she always kept her distance quietly. her pressuring you might be because she is a bit jealous or wants to interfere in your life.
families are often very meticulous about such matters, especially mothers. I think it’s very normal; your mom is probably doing it without a second thought for forty years. I don’t find it surprising that she wants to learn about her family.
So then you should have asked, ‘Is everyone marrying someone from the same profession, what kind of thinking is this?’ Didn’t your mother’s opinion seem disrespectful?
clearly sit down and talk with your mom, if she relaxes a bit, it will reduce her silly questions. but if she pressures your girlfriend, make sure to indicate in advance that you won’t let that happen. these things won’t drag on.
How long have you been together? Maybe your mom’s questioning is because she’s thinking your relationship might be getting more serious?
@pazardandondum We’ve been together for 7 months. Actually, this is my first introduction, but according to my mom, family and work are important; otherwise, she said it wouldn’t bother her.
@hatconene your profession might be important, but your mother isn’t someone to throw shade like that; it’s important to remind her to keep some distance.
it’s tough to maintain that relationship without reducing your mother’s pressure.
I think you should make a slow plan without clashing with your mom: have her meet with your girlfriend again at a suitable time, in a less questioning environment. If there’s no reconciliation, show her some distance so she understands your boundaries.