My mom criticizes my girlfriend's clothes every time, she literally says she doesn't dress like a lady. What should I do? I feel like my girlfriend is getting distant because of this. I love her, but I also have to respect my family.
why are you explaining this, actually?
my folks had said something about my girlfriend's style too, but since they didn't say it directly to her face, we tolerated it. try to be a bit of a buffer in between maybe 😳
How long have you been together? Are you serious enough to introduce her to your mom directly?
@yazipsildim we have a serious relationship, we've been together for 2 years but according to my mom, the outfit is excessive.
@kahvebitmeden what do you mean by buffer? Here, the mother's words are overshadowed, and it clearly talks about taking advantage of the partner.
The main issue here is the feeling of 'coolness'. If the reason for feeling this way is your mother's direct attitude, you need to talk to your partner and clearly express that this pressure is coming from your family, not from you. By now, after three years, you should have already established this communication.
Did you react immediately when your mother criticized your girlfriend's clothes, or did you stay silent? Because if your mother isn't backing down, she might think, "my daughter is quiet, she clearly doesn't find it unfair." You need to break this perception; otherwise, this situation will keep repeating.
