My mother keeps throwing my wife’s inability to find a job in my face. She lowers my morale to zero by asking, ‘How is this man going to support you?’ I feel like it affects our relationship, but I don’t want to upset her either. What can I do in this situation?
I’ve been through something similar; my mom would always throw shade at my choices, not towards my spouse. During that time, our home was really tense. You and your spouse should be united and stand firm. You can’t run a marriage just to avoid upsetting your mom.
I already see your family as being right as the girl’s side. A woman should support her son like his mother does. If she can’t find a job, why are you struggling? I’m not saying your mother is wrong.
@kahvebitmeden Everyone is unhappy because of this attitude. Of course, he will support his wife; they aren’t just booking a wedding venue, they are building a life together. If the mother-in-law is uncomfortable, she should sit down and talk privately.
If the issue is serious, sit down with your spouse and arrange a talk with their family. If you calm your mother down, the problem won’t escalate. Be solution-oriented before the situation grows.
How long has your spouse been unemployed? Did you not have children because your mother is upset or did you face another difficult situation?
@pazardandondum has been unemployed for about 8 months, work in the sector has stopped after the pandemic. My mom keeps nagging me about it since we’re paying rent and all 
@hatconene do you think talking privately with mothers is a solution? what will happen if your mother throws shade at your partner when she wants? she’ll do the same thing. this stuff doesn’t end.
it would be better if you acted a little faster on that.