I couldnât go on the summer vacation weâve been waiting for a week because of my period. I told my mom I was âunwell,â but I hesitated to say the real reason. It feels like something shameful, and our relationship isnât very open anyway. If I had a sister, she would easily say it, but I canât break that chain. Would you be able to say it? Or how should I explain things like this?
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7Oh, I couldnât tell my mom when I got my first period either; I confided in a cousin who was like an older sister. I think you should bring it up using a different excuse, like if you need to buy pads or something like that.
Why are you struggling so much? Havenât you ever been able to talk to your mom about these things? Or is there pressure because itâs considered âshamefulâ?
@camkenari we seem pretty distant from each other. my mom is a bit strict, and weâve never really talked about things like this. thatâs why Iâm hesitant.
@makarnaoncesi thatâs fine but I think making excuses about it is ridiculous. Itâs more honest to just say it directly; after all, menstruation is the most normal thing in the world.
The reason youâre not actually telling your mother seems to be a lack of open communication. I think youâll need to show a bit of courage to break this pattern. Aside from womenâs health, for example, if thereâs pain, suggest going to the doctor; you can get straight to the point.
A friend of mine couldnât tell his mother that he got his period, and the woman thought he was pregnant! Iâm not exaggerating; when we donât talk about such weird things, it just gets bigger. I think itâs better to explain it straightforwardly.
When we were small, our mothers would have understood these things long ago; it wouldnât have even been an issue of shame. Honestly, todayâs youth seem to get lost in that âthinking such things are shamefulâ mindset. Maybe when you talk, your mom will be happy too, so donât drag it out.