A friend of mine who often likes my posts on Instagram shared the clothes from my closet on her own account without my permission. I wanted to tell her, but I thought I'd feel embarrassed. My girlfriends say, 'Say something, it's unfair,' but I'm still hesitant.
To be honest, if you're open enough to let someone borrow clothes from your closet, it's not surprising that they get shared without permission. You cut them off, and then you complain.
It happened to me too, she had shared a photo. I spoke directly, and she didn't do it again. It won't get fixed unless you say something 🤦♀️
Did she tag you while sharing those clothes? Or did she make it look like they were hers? 🙄
@yazipsildim No, it wasn't tagged, it feels like it's completely his. That's why I'm more disturbed.
This can actually be thought of as copyright. If you have a unique clothing design or a distinctive piece, unauthorized use of it may be illegal. If you don't speak up, it may go further.
@benbisorayim but going to court would really be overkill. I think this should be resolved with a little talk, let's sort it out before the issue gets bigger 🙄
What kind of friend is this? What logic is he using?
It seems like there's an attempt at adoption here, like the whole "look, I always dress like this" vibe. Do you think this stems from a new complex, or is she just frequently borrowing clothes? The behavior seems a bit strange.
I think the situation is more about them seeing your wardrobe as an easy source, rather than being complex or trivial. If they're doing this constantly, they might be getting a bit too comfortable. Just sit down and say, "What you shared as yours is actually mine," and see what defense they come up with.
Did you say something like "but never share a photo" when you were giving the clothes? Sometimes people think "I'm borrowing it" but act like it's completely mine. It might be a misunderstanding, how are you reacting right now? 😐
Someone who takes and shares photos without asking for proper permission clearly doesn't care about boundaries. If the excuse "but I misunderstood" comes up now, I wouldn't be surprised. They might immediately go into shutdown mode when confronted, and sneakily do it again. Is this the first time?
Perhaps these clothes feel so casual because you didn't imply something like "they mean something to me" when you gave them to him in some way. Or maybe what seems special to you is just ordinary to him. From his perspective, could he really say "what's the big deal"?
Maybe someone who cares too much about how they look on social media? I mean, they might be sharing these outfits to send a message about their style or "look, I'm like this too." But if their goal isn't related to you, I think that's more thought-provoking. Don't they have their own style?
And there’s this too, maybe they’re jealous of you or think your style is "cool." But even if that's the case, it's really wrong to do it without permission. If they had just said, "I want to dress like you," it would have felt less irritating, right?
