Recently, something I heard from a friend made me think a lot. They have issues in their relationship, but they both share posts on social media as if everything is fine. Does everyone really need to know everything about everyone in this day and age? Or should it remain completely private? What do you think?
There was a time when my spouse and I were going through tough times, but from the outside, we looked very happy. It seems like people on social media want to send the message âeverything is fineâ to others. But inwardly, this situation wears a person down even more. Thatâs why being open about it or not sharing at all is the best.
On social media, these types of couple posts usually stem from a strong need to âmaintain oneâs image.â No one wants to show their friends or family that things are going badly. I believe this is a defense mechanism. However, in the long run, this situation may create a coldness in couple communication because real problems are being swept under the rug.
What I donât understand is this: okay, posting a lot on social media can be exhausting, but you say your friendâs relationship has problems. So why is that person telling you? I mean, the issue isnât social media; people should learn to communicate with each other first, I think. Otherwise, no matter how little you appear, the problem doesnât change.
By the way, my friend described it like this once; itâs not a topic that comes up all the time. He didnât directly say he had problems, but letâs say he hinted at it. I was really thinking about this âpretending to be happyâ thing. Is everyone really doing that?
I canât say everyone, but honestly most people are like this. You might be caring too much. Social media is just like a showcase; no one has to show whatâs behind the showcase. Keeping the private things private is the healthiest way, whatâs important is to solve those issues internally.