Last weekend, my spouse wanted to meet up with friends to go out and refused to come with me. This situation is weighing on my mind a lot; I wonder if something is changing in our relationship? Or does he really want to be alone? It bothers me that he wants to spend so much time with his friends.
We had the same situation; my spouse was going to his friends every week. I noticed it started to happen all the time and I told him that I clearly felt uncomfortable. We recovered quickly, so I think you should talk.
I think it's wrong for a married person, especially one who doesn't take their spouse, to go to places frequently. Family dynamics shouldn't work like that; everyone has their own home. I believe it's necessary to talk and express one's concerns.
But I don't think this is something to be blown out of proportion. People might want to relax a bit with their individuality, is that a crime? What if you're just a boring friend group, haven't you thought about that?
If you haven't experienced any issues in previous experiences and this is a sudden situation, it may not be a serious matter. Still, ask your partner directly how they feel without getting bored or placing blame. It's important to sit down and talk.
How many years have you been married? Is this the first time you’ve experienced this, or was it like this before? If it has become a constant, then it’s worth considering.
@pazardandondum actually, this isn't the first time; he did something similar last month but I didn't pay much attention to it back then. Now that he's doing it again, it caught my attention.
@kahvebitmeden this doesn't necessarily have to go against family order; a little autonomy can even be beneficial for one's mental health. It's normal for everyone to spend time with their circle of friends.
Be direct with your spouse. If it eats away at you, it could get worse.
