I'm writing, but he sees it and replies hours later. Sometimes he doesn't even write back at all. But when we meet, he acts quite interested. I'm really unsure; should I consider this a strategy or is it normal if he's really busy? Have you experienced a situation like this? How did you resolve it?
I don't think it's normal. If he's watching you now and keeps you waiting for hours, he's either indifferent or sees you as a sure thing. Okay, it can happen once or twice, but if it happens constantly, it's not nice. Just because he's attentive on the date, unfortunately, it doesn't mean this guy is balanced in everything. 😐
My ex was like that too. He could see the messages but wouldn’t write back for hours, then he would say 'I was busy' or something. But he was joking around on WhatsApp with his friends and then I found out. So sometimes it’s not about strategy but rather a matter of priority. If he’s really busy, keep an eye on it a bit 😂
But I think you're being a bit obsessive. Not everyone may be available at that moment. I believe it’s more important to follow up later. Immediately thinking 'strategy' when they don’t write is a bit of a negative perspective. For example, have they been doing this for a while, every time?
Now, this is somewhat related to differences in communication styles. Some people may not like texting or might not want to distract themselves during work. However, while their attitude during a meeting might be good, regular communication is an important criterion in serious relationships. If you feel uncomfortable, it’s beneficial to express this clearly.
Let me add a detail: when I ask him why he hasn't written, he says things like 'I was very busy, my mind was full.' But sometimes there comes a moment when I see that he's been looking at stories on Instagram. That annoys me a bit 😅
But if you noticed the thing he said, the story issue is another matter. If he's using work as an excuse but is active on social media, that's a bit of a problem. It means he's not dedicating time to you. It was the same in my past relationship; he wasn't genuine. I would say have a talk, be straightforward 😳
Have you ever tried commenting about looking at stories on Instagram? I think if you bring this topic up directly, you'll understand it more clearly. Someone who is truly busy doesn't spend a lot of time on social media 🤦♀️
It could be like this: Men usually get the message but think about writing later. But this can be perceived as "you're not a priority". As for the story issue, maybe it was just a moment to pass the time. I think you can solve it by talking.
Oh, seeing the story without getting a response really makes you want to vent, doesn't it? Even if they're interested in meeting, this text exchange is just draining you. I remember reading that some people feel uncomfortable with messaging. But even if that's not the case, we really need to talk directly.
