There’s a phenomenon named G. who constantly makes videos about their girlfriend. The girl shares very sweet moments, but the followers say, ‘This guy is using you!’ Do you think this is a flirting game, or is it not right to overanalyze and judge people? Shall we be a bit honest?
I’ve experienced something similar. My ex used to constantly upload videos on YouTube with me. Everyone said, ‘This kid is just seeking attention,’ and I became paranoid. In the end, I spoke openly about it and realized that it was really just for fun. But at first, it causes a trust crisis; you need to talk about it clearly.
I had a relationship like that too. My boyfriend always wanted to create content for TikTok; it was fun at first, but then his focus on getting ‘likes’ ruined the relationship. So be careful, sometimes these things are just done to try to appear as a ‘couple’ on social media.
Honestly, I can’t fully agree with that comment. People quickly say things like “he’s using you,” but is it really right to see it only from the outside? The kid might just enjoy sharing. As long as the girl isn’t uncomfortable, I think it’s a problem that everyone constantly comments on the relationship from the outside.
There are two dynamics here: the first is the balance between flirting and social media, the second is external pressure. If content is drawn with the consent of both parties, there’s no problem, but if someone feels uncomfortable, it could be manipulative behavior. If you’re feeling emotional instability, it might be good to share this with a specialist.
I want to add this: The girl’s attitude in the videos doesn’t seem bothered at all, but she seems a bit withdrawn after the comments. I’ve started to wonder if the opinions of her followers are affecting her a lot. Maybe it’s because external pressure has increased due to the videos?
I think this has become a very common situation now. Social media is somewhat a part of life, I mean, it’s completely a matter of “settings.” If they express themselves this way as a couple, I think there’s no problem. But as you said, external pressure can complicate things.
I’ve noticed something: Does this girl have any posts that she has made on her own before? If she is only sharing posts with her boyfriend, could it be a case of her “defining herself through the relationship”? Maybe the situation isn’t solely about the guy.