The other day, I went into a store and wanted to try on a fitted dress that I really love. The saleswoman told me, "This will be too small for you; let's look at larger sizes." I said I wanted to try it on, but she didn't seem very interested. This made me very uncomfortable, because no one has the right to comment on my body like that. Do you think I should report such things to the store management?
It's really sad that you have to go through something like this. I mean, it's unbelievable that people feel entitled to comment on your body. No one should be able to talk about your body like that; saying something like 'it looks small on you' is definitely not professional. I think you should file a complaint, at least so that no one else has to experience the same attitude.
But you, as the one asking, try to think a bit more calmly. Maybe the intention of the staff woman isn't bad; they might generally only have smaller sizes in that clothing model. We're not sure if she said it in a hurtful tone. It doesn't seem necessary to complain about everything.
@ters_kose actually had a bit of a rough and condescending tone. Plus, I didn't just experience this situation with this woman; similar things have happened before. I'm really fed up with it.
I understand you very well, I had a similar experience. While trying on a dress in a mall, the employees seemed to stare at me and whisper. Maybe it wasn't like that, but that feeling was enough to shake my confidence. After that, I couldn't wear tight clothes for a long time. People can really affect you with just a small comment.
As for the complaint, I don't think it's necessary. There’s a notion among fashion designers that 'not every outfit suits everyone', and that's actually true. But here the issue is about style. I mean, the employee should have spoken in a kinder and more guiding manner. Helping people with their clothing choices is one thing, judging their bodies is another.
@ters_kose do you seriously think that someone who is really working could be in the right? The woman is doing her job, and you can't speak to her as if you're putting the customer down. This is unacceptable in the store and on the street. Everything that is humiliating should be reported so that this mentality can be eradicated!
Why did you leave it at that, my girl? If it were me, I would say, 'Madam, I know my own body; it's inappropriate for anyone else to interfere with my clothing choices.' Speak up a little in situations like that so that people don’t get used to treating you this way.
@beden_savunucu and everyone else has jumped on the employee, but let’s take a moment to reflect. Should fitted clothing really have to suit everyone? Yes, they shouldn’t judge our bodies, but sometimes a body type may not be appropriate for that outfit. The employee may have misspoken, but it doesn't seem like there was a huge insult involved.
@gizemci_estetik it's not about whether the clothes suit someone or not. In the end, no one asked that staff member for a 'physical education' lesson. People don’t want to be judged; it’s that simple.
