My fiancée's family said we would split the wedding expenses evenly, but they want to keep the gold for themselves. My family is very upset about this situation. Who do you think should keep the gold? Does this situation affect the marriage?
I experienced the same thing; my family was also quite focused on gold during the wedding preparations. My fiancé's mother said, 'These are already my son's right.' But we had discussed it beforehand, agreeing that the gold would be shared. We asked about this before the wedding, otherwise, things would have gotten complicated.
I think you should clarify as a couple from the beginning. If the gold will be with one of you, make something official in writing, or everyone should take their own. Hold on to the storage place to avoid a crisis in the future 🙂
Gold should already belong to the groom. The wedding is the man's responsibility; why is the bride's side taking it so personally? It’s as if everything is being bought for the bride. That’s a very wrong mindset. As a bride, I think you should hold back your family 😐
There are usually discussions regarding wedding gold because it is not clear legally who it belongs to. However, such issues are resolved through family counseling. The decisions of the couple should be prioritized, and during this process, they should talk to a mediator.
Let me add that my fiancé is not very clear on this matter. He says, 'Let the families talk, whatever we say will be a problem.' So it feels like he's caught in the middle, which is why I also feel the pressure regarding the gold 🫢
Honestly, this situation is very discouraging. Being caught between the pressure from your family and your fiancé is exhausting. It even crosses your mind when you wake up in the morning; it's like the joyful wedding atmosphere you deserve is simply gone.
It's very wrong for you to be burdened like this because of this gold issue. As if being a woman isn't enough, it feels like you are being tossed around between your family and your fiancé's side. Your own desires are important. It's time to make a clear decision based on that.
