We’re preparing for the wedding, but my partner chose to talk to my mom about the budget. I was totally shocked by this situation. I felt like I was being ignored, is this how it goes? Honestly, I’m confused.
come on, going straight to your mom? I don’t know 
Did she do this without asking size? I mean, did you ever talk about something like this beforehand?
@kahvebitmeden yes, I had no idea. By the time I found out, it had already happened.
I think you might be exaggerating a bit. After all, you’re getting married, so it didn’t seem strange to me to ask for help from family.
But why directly your mother? It’s like it’s turned into something imposed on you instead of asking from her own family.
if Adam is behaving this relaxed, he might not be taking his financial responsibilities seriously either. Things like this can become a big issue in a marriage 
@yazipsildim this is too much to be normal, really. At least we should talk and make a joint decision.
Such situations are particularly common in high-cost events like weddings. I think it’s important to clarify financial obligations from the start, and if necessary, you can seek support from an expert. This is crucial to avoid bigger problems in the future.
I went through something similar. My fiancée even borrowed her rent from my mother. Before getting married, we set very clear boundaries.
It’s strange that she called your mom directly. Since she did it without telling you, she either thought you would react or she sees this kind of thing as normal. It’s hard to move on without discussing it.