Three weeks before our wedding, my spouse messaged their ex. When I found out about this, I was completely devastated. Am I living through the fear of losing them during this process too? When my sister-in-law heard about it, she said, 'maybe they'll apologize,' but I don't know what should be done.
This can't be, it's a complete breach of trust.
I had a similar situation. Things like these that usually come up right before marriage are generally a signal of an ongoing confusion. I'd say think carefully.
How did you notice the message? Did he say it or did you catch it by mistake?
@yazipsildim I accidentally saw it, my phone rang while I was holding it. His ex-girlfriend also wrote things like 'congratulations'.. 🤦♀️
@kahvebitmeden but still, can someone who is going to get married have such confusion? I think it's just plain wrong.
Make sure to save the message and talk directly. Don't brush off such things with emotional concerns; everything should be clear before the wedding 🤦♀️
this is an emotionally painful situation. Pre-marriage stress can sometimes accumulate with memories from the past. It's hard to make a clear decision without analyzing, but you especially need to focus on your sense of trust.
