We have three weeks left until our wedding, but my partner texted their ex. I'm not feeling at ease; this situation is causing me to feel insecure. I wonder why they did something like this, are they hiding something?
I experienced the same thing; before the wedding, he talked on the phone with his ex. It turned out he was just congratulating her on her engagement, but they got into an argument over a silly topic and the wedding got canceled. Just be straightforward, what's the need for things like this?
How did you learn this, did you see the messages?
I noticed from the notification on @pazardandondum's phone that he only wrote "how are you," but we have an unpleasant memory from the past because of him.
Message "how are you" to @aklimkaldi can't be a bad thing. It's just unnecessary pre-wedding tension. You've blown it out of proportion.
Stay calm but save the screenshot. If this situation continues to escalate and becomes bothersome, you should talk to a professional to seek a solution. Now sit down and clearly ask about it.
@kahvebitmeden sorry but there's only 3 weeks left until the wedding, and people are asking! It's understandable that someone gets confused. You're right to push.
If they've done the same thing before, I think that's the main issue. Communicating with an ex before the wedding is a weird situation, it shouldn't happen again.
All things considered, it's strange that they leave notifications on and write such things. It’s as if they don’t want to hide it, but on the other hand, it’s an unnecessary carelessness. If they know about the past bad memory, especially, why are they behaving so thoughtlessly?
Maybe the ex wrote to themselves, but the real question is: why don't they just say cleanly, "something like this happened"? It's not being hidden, but there's no explanation either, it's strange. You can't live in constant questioning during that wedding excitement.
