He told the whole family that I didn't go to his wedding.

I didn’t want to go to my cousin’s wedding because I’m going through a tough time both financially and at work. I had clearly said this and even apologized, but she literally dragged me in family groups saying, ‘How selfish you are, everyone is coming and you’re not.’ Now everyone, including my mom, is putting pressure on me. Can not going to a wedding invitation be blown up this much? Am I the one being unreasonable?