Recently, my boyfriend keeps talking about natural beauty, but at the same time, he praises a friend who has had a nose job. I don’t understand if he’s preparing me for something indirectly. Do you think I should talk openly about it, or am I just exaggerating the situation in my head? What are your thoughts on aesthetic issues?
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I think this is entirely a matter of self-confidence. Your boyfriend might think he’s being kind, but he actually doesn’t understand how you feel. I suggest you have an honest conversation. Saying ‘natural beauty’ while praising aesthetics is confusing; if he has an intention, why doesn’t he say it clearly? Don’t think that something bad will happen if you don’t change yourself.
But wait a minute, could it be that she’s just commenting on your nose? Because while talking about natural beauty, she might want to convey another message by adding aesthetic enhancements. Have you ever asked her this? Did you clearly ask, ‘Are you saying this for me?’ If so, it needs to be clear here.
Aesthetic topics have become very common in recent years, but people’s motivations are sometimes unclear. Generally, women undergo these procedures of their own volition, but partner influence can be dangerous. If your appearance depends on what someone else thinks, it strains the dynamic of the relationship. You need to be able to make this decision without your self-confidence being shaken. If their praise affects you negatively, definitely talk about it.
I thought about it a bit more; honestly, they didn’t say anything clear, but recently during a meal, they mentioned something like “if it were just a millimeter shorter, it would be great.” Now that I think about it, it feels like they might have been hinting at me. I’m not sure if I should just ask directly, but I honestly felt a bit uncomfortable.
Then think about this. Why did you take such a small comment to heart? Maybe he was really just commenting on your friend’s situation, and you twisted it to yourself. It’s still unclear whether there’s a direct criticism about your nose or not. I think we should first take a look at how you talked to him.
I think there’s something strange about your boyfriend too. It’s hurtful for him to make comments about your nose without you saying anything. Praising both your aesthetics and your naturalness is a pretty mixed message. If loving you is dependent on aesthetics, then the problem is much deeper. He acts like he doesn’t have the courage to shout at you.