So girls, I accidentally opened an old message thread on his phone, and I couldn't help but read it. A lot has happened, quite intimate conversations and all. Now I'm really torn inside, should I bring this up with him or just leave it alone? What would you do if you were in my place?
Honestly, I did something like that once too. I read the messages with his ex-girlfriend. Then I couldn't hold back and said, "Why are you bringing this up?" The relationship got pretty tense. But I was feeling uncomfortable, and if I hadn't said anything, it would have grown inside me. I think you should talk about it, but approach the topic calmly.
I think you shouldn't speak at all. If you ask why, it's like interfering in your private life. There was no need to snoop through the phone anyway; now how are you going to explain what you've read? Don't put yourself in an unjust position while trying to be honest 😳
Some of the old messages may actually have been written before the relationship started. It could also be just a simple friendship chat. It's important to think calmly, as the other person is likely to see this from a defensive position. If they are feeling very hurt, you might try sharing your own feelings instead of placing blame as you talk.
I also want to add this: the messages are not very old. They're from a few months ago. But still, I haven't seen anything clear, meaning there's nothing that could jeopardize our relationship. But I just can't seem to get it out of my mind.
You’re saying the messages are from a few months ago now, which is a different situation. If I were you, I would definitely talk about it. Because a few months ago means it was while you were in a relationship. But don’t go in with direct questions; explain it gently like, 'I just want to ask something.' If the explanation makes sense, don’t let it drag on.
