Recently, my spouse has been acting like they're hiding their phone from me. When they're messaging, they either turn away or directly close the screen. Honestly, at first I thought it might be something work-related, but this has started to happen all the time... Do you think I should confront them about it, or should I quietly keep an eye on things? Is this situation normal?
I think you should sit down and talk to your partner. But not in an accusatory way, calmly explain that you've noticed something. If they really have nothing to hide, they'll explain without reacting defensively. If they act evasively, that's when you need to think it through in detail.
But let me be clear with you, this kind of secrecy is usually the attitude of people who are up to something. Most of the time, something comes up. But don’t panic and think it’s definitely this, it might be work-related. But I think you should stay alert 😅
But sometimes situations like this are exaggerated a lot. People can behave like this to protect their own space that they don’t want anyone to know about. Just ask directly, maybe it’s really something work-related. Don’t jump to conclusions 🙄
How long has he/she been acting like this? I mean, did it start suddenly, or has he/she actually been like this for a long time and you just noticed it now? And when you say throwing a fit, are you saying you didn't show it at all right now?
The main issue here is this: You are a partner in their life, and it’s completely normal for this behavior to disturb you. Privacy in marriage is definitely important, but this hiding undermines trust. Protect your own boundaries; your feelings matter. This situation is not a healthy relationship dynamic.
As you said, I had the same thing happen with the screen turning off instantly, and unfortunately, there was another woman in the background. But before things got worse, I calmly talked it out and we clarified the situation. I'd say at least try to have a conversation, but be prepared; don't be surprised if something bad comes up.
You're right, we need to stay calm and talk, but it feels very difficult. There's also this: I've started to notice these behaviors for the past 2-3 weeks. They weren't there before, and I thought it was because of the increased workload, but it's starting to not make sense anymore. I'm at a loss about what to do.
My daughter, it's not right for him to hide things from you to the point where it makes you anxious, even if it's about his job. You have a million thoughts racing in your mind right now, and make sure he knows that openly. But whatever you do, don't do any silent surveillance or anything like that; it will only make things worse. In this situation, you're really harming yourself.
