My spouse opposed me giving the wedding gold to my family

I think your spouse is somewhat right. In marriage, jewelry is generally considered a joint asset of the couple. But think about this: if you want to support your family, you should resolve this by discussing it together. If it leads to a separation of 'my family is your family', the trust issue will grow between you.

Oh come on, I think the problem lies with him. When there's an issue in your family, it's completely human to want to provide support, which is totally understandable. I wonder if he would have reacted the same way if the situation involved his family in what he refers to as 'shared'?

So, how is your current financial situation? It sounds like you're saying you don't want to fight with your spouse, but are there big troubles in your family?

@mehmetbeyzade we actually don't have much savings either. But I'm afraid things will get worse if my family can't pay off their debts 😅

Determining the priority order of financial matters in marriage is important. The ownership of the gold given at weddings is legally debatable, but it is generally considered the personal property of the woman. However, this is the legal aspect of the issue. It would be better to make a joint plan with your spouse and make decisions considering the future of both families. Otherwise, emotional resentments may grow.

@ekonomidennis actually, there isn't a point that gold is the woman's personal property. A joint decision is necessary, since marriage is completely a partnership. If there is such a separation in material matters, can marriage even work?

If you ask me, talk about it. You mentioned that your family is in a difficult situation, but you and your spouse should sit down and think about what the real solution could be. In my own marriage, I often took a stance in favor of my family, which really created a wedge between me and my spouse. In the end, it was always the debts that put me in trouble.

@derinkaradag I get what you're saying, but think about how the guy feels. If he keeps saying "my family," wouldn't that make his partner feel excluded? Honestly, I would feel uncomfortable directly.