The other day, while looking at something on my wife’s phone, I saw very intimate photos of her with her ex-boyfriend. They were pretty far back in the album, but she hasn’t deleted them completely… Honestly, I felt bad. I don’t even think she takes such care to keep our own photos. Should I tell her or is it better not to bring up the past? Why might they still be there?
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7I had experienced something similar as well. They explained it as old photos from the phone, but it’s a matter of trust; I felt a coldness inside. I think you should say it, otherwise it will grow in your mind.
Is the phone keeping a history or could it just have forgotten to delete it? I don’t know if you noticed before, but is this the first time you’ve seen something like this? 
@yazipsildim actually, I remember that one time in a group photo with friends there was also his ex, and I was uncomfortable back then too, but I didn’t say anything directly. This time the photos were more intimate, they didn’t look that old.
@aklimkaldi if you’ve been bothered before, why didn’t you just sit down and talk it out? Now it’s gotten even bigger. If it doesn’t look like it used to, then the issue is significant here. I think you should ask for an explanation.
Generally, in such situations, a person doesn’t want to delete someone because they don’t want to completely erase traces of their past. However, the fact that sincere photos are still there could indicate a lack of distance; it’s healthier to express this situation clearly and find out their opinion directly. Try not to approach them in a blameful way, but indicate that you feel uncomfortable.
These topics feel so familiar to me that it seems like they’re all copy-pasted now. I don’t understand why every headline revolves around ‘exes’.
It can’t be, for sure. I think it’s disrespectful.