My spouse snores constantly. Normally, I've tried to ignore it, but now I can't focus during the day due to lack of sleep. I've slept on the couch a few nights; silence is nice, but I think it's not right to sleep apart in a marriage. I'm hesitant to bring this up because it might hurt their feelings. How do you think this can be resolved? Is it serious enough to openly say, 'We've separated our beds'?
Well, my uncle used to snore too; you know, he used to stuff his nose with newspaper, but that didn't help, of course. But sleeping separately? I don't know, it takes some sacrifice. Back in the day, nobody would make a separate room just because someone snores.
Is your spouse aware of this, then? I mean, are you talking about it for the first time, or did you hint at it little by little in the past? Or have you ever suggested going to the doctor?
@kirmizikazak No, I never spoke directly. Maybe they understand, but I've never expressed it clearly. I thought about going to the doctor, but I'm afraid they might get hurt.
@camkenari you mentioned sacrifice, but honestly, who sacrifices for whom when they stay up sleepless? A person who doesn’t sleep becomes miserable, and the relationship loses its meaning.
For snoring, first go to an ENT specialist; it's usually caused by the nose or palate. If it's a specific issue, a mask or surgical option may be necessary. But when talking, it would be better to say 'let's solve this together.'
I think men always snore a little, it's normal. My dad used to snore and my mom acted like she was used to it. If you sleep separately, everyone gossips, I think. Such a shame 😂
@soncaykaldi it's not the men, snoring is a physical problem. Social normalization is unnecessary. Besides, there’s no gossiping side to separating this; after all, nobody's watching at home.
