My spouse snores constantly. Normally, I’ve tried to ignore it, but now I can’t focus during the day due to lack of sleep. I’ve slept on the couch a few nights; silence is nice, but I think it’s not right to sleep apart in a marriage. I’m hesitant to bring this up because it might hurt their feelings. How do you think this can be resolved? Is it serious enough to openly say, ‘We’ve separated our beds’?
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7Well, my uncle used to snore too; you know, he used to stuff his nose with newspaper, but that didn’t help, of course. But sleeping separately? I don’t know, it takes some sacrifice. Back in the day, nobody would make a separate room just because someone snores.
Is your spouse aware of this, then? I mean, are you talking about it for the first time, or did you hint at it little by little in the past? Or have you ever suggested going to the doctor?
@kirmizikazak No, I never spoke directly. Maybe they understand, but I’ve never expressed it clearly. I thought about going to the doctor, but I’m afraid they might get hurt.
@camkenari you mentioned sacrifice, but honestly, who sacrifices for whom when they stay up sleepless? A person who doesn’t sleep becomes miserable, and the relationship loses its meaning.
For snoring, first go to an ENT specialist; it’s usually caused by the nose or palate. If it’s a specific issue, a mask or surgical option may be necessary. But when talking, it would be better to say ‘let’s solve this together.’
I think men always snore a little, it’s normal. My dad used to snore and my mom acted like she was used to it. If you sleep separately, everyone gossips, I think. Such a shame 
@soncaykaldi it’s not the men, snoring is a physical problem. Social normalization is unnecessary. Besides, there’s no gossiping side to separating this; after all, nobody’s watching at home.