Itâs been 8 months since my ex and I went our separate ways, but they still watch my stories on Instagram immediately. Sometimes they even leave a like, as if it would make more sense if they just texted? Is blocking the right move, or is ignoring them better? I canât read their mind. What would you do in this situation?
I had logged into Instagram to stalk a kid in class, and accidentally watched his story, and that kid called me asking, âDo you still feel anything?â I think heâs checking because heâs curious, but he doesnât have the guts to message. Would blocking help? I think it would.
Story watching, actions like liking are actually generally about signaling âlook, Iâm here, Iâm watching you.â But you donât have to engage in conversation with someone who doesnât want to speak openly. Ignore them, as this energy isnât worth expending.
But why are you so bothered by this? It seems a bit much that you even notice who else is watching the story. I mean, you could have ignored such things and perhaps increased your own peace of mind before getting to the thought of blocking.
Such tracking behaviors are often signs of unresolved issues. It doesnât necessarily mean âhe still loves youâ; sometimes it can just be a habit. But if youâre feeling uncomfortable, the healthiest approach is to clearly set boundaries and distance yourself from him.
I was actually thinking what is there to exaggerate so much, but as you said, it might be bothering me. Honestly, I canât figure out what he/she is thinking anymore, and I wouldnât want to experience the same confusion 8 months later. Completely cutting it off seems like a solution.
Imagine, 8 months have passed, youâve carved out a path for yourself but theyâre still following you like a shadow. I think this is completely about power. Someone who doesnât take a step but wants to make their presence felt in your world. Just block them out, determination will set you free.