I was in a relationship for 3 years, but honestly, the last 6 months were very exhausting, and I wanted to end it. Now my ex says he will file a lawsuit for damages because of the financial support he provided me. He helped with my rent and so on, but aren’t these things just part of being in a relationship? Do you think he could actually do that and have a chance of winning? Or is he just trying to intimidate me?
It happened to me, I had a 2-year relationship and the same situation occurred after we broke up. He also brought up things like rent assistance, but when I consulted a lawyer, they said that these were unconditional supports given during the relationship. So, it’s likely to be considered a donation. If there’s no written promissory note, I think he can’t win.
Let me be clear, they can file a lawsuit, but the chances of winning are low. If they have evidence related to the assistance, they might have a chance, but you need to talk to a lawyer. Don’t act on your own, have someone explain the legal processes to you. If you’re afraid of the lawsuit, schedule a preliminary meeting.
So, helping each other is a form of effort, but turning it into a weapon once the relationship is over isn’t nice. If there was mutual consent in those acts of assistance, then questioning it afterwards comes off as a bit manipulative. There’s no need to read intentions in such matters; rather than focusing on who did what for what reason, we should look at whether the actions were right or wrong.
Did Kira help you while you were making your payments regularly, or did she act like a lender? Also, did you discuss this support, or did she just handle it herself by saying ‘I’ll take care of it’? Because we can’t make general comments without understanding the intention.
I want to add that sometimes I couldn’t keep up with the rent payments, and he would say, ‘Don’t worry, I’ll handle it,’ and offer his support. But we never had a conversation like ‘this debt’ explicitly. It was something he did on his own accord, so there was nothing in writing.
I think there’s more to this situation. The discussion about compensation out of nowhere is strange. They might be looking for an excuse to stay connected to you somehow. Or let’s say they weren’t able to digest the stressful part of the last six months. Could something have happened there?
My girl, you need to be clear about these things. Not everyone has good intentions. That’s how things go when helping, but when the work is done, people’s true faces come to light. If there’s something written down, it could be a problem, but otherwise, don’t fall for empty words.