Hello, there’s one week left until the wedding, but my spouse is messaging their ex. I caught them and got really anxious. Having something like this happen before the wedding has stressed me out a lot. What should I do, how can I evaluate this situation?
Is this the kind of thing that happens just a week before the wedding?
Did you read all the messages? Did they write something upsetting?
@soncaykaldi I couldn’t read it all, but they said something like ‘like in the old days.’
@aklimkaldi Bro, if you haven’t read it, why are you stressing out without being sure? Not every ex-girlfriend conversation has to be bad.
I think you should just ask directly. There’s no other way than being open a week before the wedding.
I experienced a situation like this before my wedding too; staying calm and speaking clearly resolved it. Don’t miss it.
@kahvebitmeden It wouldn’t be normal to talk to someone reminiscing about the old days. You’re looking at it too casually.
Even if you don’t ask this explicitly, it will be running through your mind. But the real question is this: what does “like the old days” mean? Friendship, a relationship, or a new beginning? It would be good to learn and clarify this before the wedding.
When hearing the phrase “like in the old days,” a hundred scenarios go through one’s mind, you are right. But the key point here is your fiancé’s attitude. Does she view this correspondence as normal, or is she trying to hide it? It’s hard to take a step without understanding this.
Messaging an ex like this is already a big question mark. But the real issue is that you’re sitting at home searching for solutions without fully addressing this topic. Is he really that relaxed, or are you ignoring some things? Try sitting down and asking, “Do you think this is normal?” Let’s see what his reaction is.
"How did you come across this conversation before the phrase ‘like in the old days’? Did they show it clearly, or did you find it yourself? Because whether your fiancée is hiding this situation or not is, in my opinion, the most critical part of the matter. If they can share it as it is, maybe the issues aren’t as big as you think. But if they’re hiding something, then it’s a completely different picture.