I'm really going crazy, girls! We agreed to move into this apartment just the two of us, but the girl's boyfriend spends five days a week here. I mean, the guy basically lives here, and he doesn't contribute to the rent or the bills. Plus, they never leave the kitchen clean. Am I overreacting, or is this situation normal? How should I talk to them about it without being rude, but still clearly?
Honestly, you should confront both of them in the evening and tell them that the child should also contribute to the weekly kitchen expenses and bills. Either they pay up, or they stop coming five days a week anyway.
I experienced the same thing; we had a big fight over the issue of leaving the kitchen dirty. The moment I suggested we split the bills into thirds, the kid literally threw a fit. That probably happens with you too.
this situation is very common among new couples; after a while, they start playing house. he probably doesn't even consider that you might be worried about bills or anything like that, so you need to talk to him directly without breaking anything.
